Okay so a dear friend of mine....an ex....is having problems with his gal. I told him i can't really be in his affairs considering we still know that the feelings are mutal towards each other. Since we leave on two sides of the country right now...the "What if monster" popped back up in his head. I understand that you should live and let go but wow, conversations now are even more deeper then when we were younger. Should i continue with the friendship (hoping that things will never get passed the bad) or tell him to let the thought go of what if we were together. I have spoken my peace and said that things could move on but he is at a stand-still....and is lost at the forked road the friend or love.
2006-10-09 21:55:07 · 4 answers · asked by scornedscarlet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As long as you are consist ant with your views of the relationship and continue to make your opinion known he will have to learn to live with it and move on. To some people moving on is like walking out of a room to others its a time consuming and heart hurting process. You being consist ant will be best in the long run for both of you. One person playing the "what if" game is much better than the two of you playing.
2006-10-09 22:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has turned to you because you obviously still care about each other. You need to decide how you feel about him and whether the reasons you broke up have been resolved.
In the meantime, tell him he should try to mend whatever problems he is having with his new gal. Maybe they are the same problems you two had. I have a feeling that if you are in the picture, however, that he will find it hard to do what needs to be done with his new girlfriend. I think you should both agree not to contact each other for a certain amount of time to see if he can get back on track. If he can't, then maybe the two of you will have a second chance.
2006-10-10 05:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks like his choice. you've said what you needed to say. i don't see the problem in talking. i mean you live on other sides of the country. its not like anything is going to happen. he is a good friend, i wouldn't edge him on but don't stop all communication. who knows what will happen in the future.
2006-10-10 05:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move to different country.
2006-10-10 04:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by used1goods 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋