I was reading an article at http://www.smartmoney.com/esquire/index.cfm?story=20060804 and I suggest you read it.
The author used to be bad at holding eye contact for long periods. As an experiment, he forced himself to start locking in on people's pupils and made sure the other person was the first to look away or down. He stopped worrying about the reaction of the person he was staring at. At first it was uncomfortable, but after awhile he got used to it and started getting friendlier greetings, discounts he didn't deserve etc. Basically he was treated as a powerful person because he commanded it through eye contact.
I can relate to this because I stink at eye contact and I might try this and see if there is any difference. Right now, I'm always the first person to look down or away during a conversation. So, the other person naturally thinks I'm weak or timmid. What are your thoughts on this article? Is there something to it or what? At this point, I'm ready to try anything.
2007-09-01
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