How do you handle your anger?

Question

Lately I get mad easily, but not to the point where I need to undergo therapy to stop being too violent or breaking/throwing things. The stress that causes this is mostly work-related.

When you feel your about to blow your top, what do you do?

Answer 1

I pray, meditate, listen to relaxing music, I try to think positive as much as possible, try to keep myself surrounded with positive people, believe in miracles :)
~ Peace ♥



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Answer 2

I walk out of the room and take a long fast walk (even at work) and find something to destroy, a stick, a pallet, etc. At home I try to have something that needs done. For instance, a hole that needs dug, a bit of concrete that needs torn out and re-poured. If I'm really really about to lose it, I pick up a gun. I was raised with them, the feel and the smell the texture and weight all bring back memories. I remember the smell of blood and death, of looking in the eyes of the dead. All these remind me of the only thing a gun can do and how good I am at it. This, plus the reminder it gives me that I am not powerless and do not HAVE to put up with the situation calms me down. I think I have an odd look on my face when I go back to talk with whoever it is that angered me. :)This is probably because in the back of my mind I'm considering what to do with the bodies or if I need to make a public example of them. It's funny how even the toughest seem to back up. :)
edit: I think the power shifts in that situation, I become a much more effective negotiator, I become precise, concise and resolute. I know what I stand for, what I won't stand for, and what is negotiable. So far such negotiations have always ended at least acceptably to me.
Edit: I realized I jumped right to a worst case scenario. Must not have had enough coffee this morning. What I'm describing is quite rare and generally only involves real threats to life and limb of my loved ones. The rest of the time I go to a lot of trouble to avoid being trapped in potentially aggravating situations. I take zoloft. I avoid situations that would lead to these kinds of problems and people that are likely to do things that might lead to this kind of anger. It is, bluntly, why I am considering leaving the company I now work for. I have worked with the same group of people for 32 years, but we recently were acquired by a large Investor. The orders his minions have been giving are ones that I consider likely to result in injuries and deaths among the workforce and even our customers. As such, it is probably time for me to move on.

Answer 3

I think about something happy and take a long walk with my dog. " Did You Know" that animals are the best way to releive stress and anger. Exercise can also do that too. I hope you feel better. I am dealing with anger and stress all my life because of a younger sibling. So I should know. Go Scream In Your Pilllow. That also helps. Or take a risk or something. The best thing is to EAT CHOCOLATE!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

I cannot afford to get too stressed out anymore
because of a heart condition. This keeps my
emotions in check. I do deep slow breathing,
I can manage to count to eight inhaling, and the same number exhaling. Peaceful music in the
background lifts my spirit, and soon the moment
is passed.
If I am in a stressful situation, I exit as soon as
possible, telling myself,I don't need this.
Breathe in peacefulness, exhale stress!

Answer 5

I love anger, what a wonderful emotion.
Stress, can you handle the stress? Is it blind anger without reason? Then this is stress related, and not anger. Anger is just the emotion you feel.
When the moment comes and you react, stop yourself for a second, then act. It has a huge influence on bringing out your reason, and not your emotion.

Answer 6

I used to have the same problem you do and just like you i didn't wanna get professional help. i tried to experiment with myself and figure out the best and quickest ways to diffuse my anger. you have to be concerned about anger in 2 ways longer term and short term. your short term goals are to just calm yourself down at the moment and what i use to do this is just COMPLETELY off track my mind this is very hard to achieve at first but the way it works is you think of something good in your life or some fun times you know like a fun party or a great sexual experience and so on just try to get your mind off of whatever is bothering your at the moment, try to do this as quickly as possible. and when you return back to reality you just wont be as angry as you were and you will realize how insignificant some things are. as far as long term is concerned you need to train your body to be relaxed most of the time remember anger is just an emotion like happiness, sadness and so on and anger is very important in life however keeping it under your control is even more important. meditation is a great way to achieve this, i just light some incense put some calm music and just close my eyes and try and think about nothing at all. just anything to take a few minutes out for yourself, this has really worked for me and in past few months have i have significantly controlled my anger. Hope it works for you.

Answer 7

Close my eyes and try to relax, try to regain control. Unfortunately, sometimes I can't hold my anger and I thow books around my room, against the wall, and things like that. My stress is mainly school related (It's my curse).
If I feel angry or nervous or stressed for days, I go swimming. It's very relaxing for my mind, because when I'm swimming I'm not thinking of anything. It's like my body knows what to do, and my mind relaxes.

Answer 8

I usually wait 24 hours before I address anything with the other person. It keeps me out of trouble (i.e. saying things I will regret).

For immediate anger relief, I take a walk or deep breathe and count to 10.

Answer 9

Exercise vigorously after work. It will help you to get your mind off of work related topics and will help you avoid unnecessary stress. I used to ride my bike back and forth to work and it was so refreshing, both before and after work. Going to the gym or for a walk maybe just as effective.

Answer 10

I have my mother's temper which can be pretty bad at times. When I feel myself getting to the boiling point I just turn around and walk away. Then when I have cooled down I try and talk to the person calmly.

Answer 11

Problems we face can be put into two separate categories - i.e, 1. Those that can not be solved ; 2. Those that can be solved. If you worry about what you cant solve you will be stressed. Stress management boils down to knowing what to worry or do things about.