Do you find sarcasm acceptable when used in humor?
Do men or women tend to use more sarcasm?
If someone's sarcastic remark is hurtful to you, how do you deal with it?
2007-09-02 02:33:32 · 9 answers · asked by GENE 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sarcasm can be hilariously effective or it can be damaging to the relationship, depending on the situation. The rule of thumb - if the sarcasm is not between people who perceive themselves to be equals, it can be seen as mean spirited, badly timed, or even cruel. For example, a teacher who can use sarcasm with other teachers and be thought of as quite a wit among those teachers might be seen as a bully in the classroom for making the same sorts of comments to students. Sarcasm can be the nudge back to reality a friend or coworker needs, but when used against someone who sees himself as being on an uneven footing, it will more likely be seen as a weapon against which the object feels defenseless.
I simply do not use sarcasm with children, employees, or someone I think has a chip on his shoulder about his own status. I have, and it was almost universally misunderstood, and detrimental to the relationship, so I gave it up as a bad idea. I am personally not insulted by sarcasm because I know myself pretty well. I know the person saying it probably thinks I know better than whatever it was I did or said to provoke the sarcasm. If I've opened myself to sarcasm, I probably deserved it. I love irony, and I can get a laugh at my own expense.
2007-09-02 11:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Arby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I find sarcasm acceptable only when I hear it from my close person's lips.
And it's not only because we forgive a lot to friends. Usually closest people know us best, it's logical. Sarcastic words often tend not to hurt but to tell the truth, though, not very politely. And we accept the truth told by friends more willingly than what is told by a stranger.
For example, I'm eating a pie, though I should be on a diet. If my friend who knows all my problems and lucks tells me: "yeah, this pie will definitely help you lose a pound", I won't be hurt because I know it's a joke. However, if a stranger tells me this, I will probably hit him/her.
As for men and women, I believe each use sarcasm only on their sex. Nor women know men well, neither do men, and sarcasm is, as I said, mostly truth. And how can you tell the truth about what you don't know?...
If someone's hurt you, you have to say it. Otherwise it will end up in heaviness of relationship.
2007-09-02 03:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Aatami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do find sarcasm acceptable when used in humor because nobody takes any of it seriously, if you know that they are not trying to make fun of you. Neither men or woment tend to sue mor sarcasm. It's the same thing like both men and women say about as much words in a day. If someone's sarcastic remark is hurtful to me, I usually just act as if I don't understand that they are using sarcasm. That way, they don't have fun, and I walk away.
Hope this helps!
2007-09-02 02:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by &hearts Marie &hearts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes in humor everything is acceptable...its just humor after all...not to be taken seriously.
And I think woman use more sarcasm than men...
Well I just answer them with more sarcasm.
[I'm a pretty sarcastic person LOL]
2007-09-02 02:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by JennyfferBCN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually just ignore them. Humorous or not. For me, if you are my friend and you are making sarcastic comments on me, I really don't mind. But if it comes from a co-worker, a boss or someone I am not close with, I easily get irritated. I usually just pray that the humiliation and hurt and anger go away... At the end of the day, these people is just a tiny part of your life... you really do not need them to be happy and to survive..
Remember... you always have a choice... you can react and lose your temper... and you can just simply ignore them... as if they what they said do not exist...
2007-09-02 03:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do have a problem with sarcasm, you need to realize that it is YOUR problem and not the other persons. If you are secure, have good boundaries, and love yourself (about 2% of our culture), then the words of others will not hurt you.
Dr. J
2007-09-02 02:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jerry H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In Britain it wouldn't be Britain without a healthy measure of sarcasm every day.
If it is hurtful get over it or say something back. The only options you do have!
2007-09-02 02:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by Secret Cola Ninja 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
situation is maximum individuals don't get it, and you come returned off as a" A" hollow. i understand this using fact i'm sarcastic and so is my massive brother, I truly have a T shirt that announces "Sarcasm is only between the amenities I furnish". I truly have tried to tone it down yet have a no longer hassle-free time protecting it in, Grew up thinking "MADS solutions to stupid "questions became a Manuel.
2016-10-03 12:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not appreciate the sarcasms from people who seem to consider themselves better that you. I used to be very upset, but now realize that it is not worth raising to their bait. By seizing the high ground, you have already provided yourself the better person.
2007-09-02 02:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋