In the last few years I've been through a lot. I've had two abusive relationships and even though I've moved on physically, a lot of that emotional baggage has remained with me. When I'm meeting a new guy and he wants to take me to a certain diner/restaurant, and if I've been there with one of my exes before and it brings up bad memories, I tell him I don't really like the place and reccommend another. Also, because my exes all live close by me and frequent hang out places in my area, when I'm with a new guy, I make sure that we don't go to any place that either I have a bad association with cause I used to go there with an ex, or if it's a place that I know my ex goes to alot, I won't go there because I don't want to run into him. I don't even hang out in my own neighborhood because of this, I always go somewhere where I know my exes would never go. I know it shouldn't be this way, but I'm not sure how I should go about dealing with this. I would really appreciate constructive advice.
2007-02-23
08:39:42
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