I have recentally been gaining self confidence, but I have a hard time publically appearing "charming". Not in the way you would expect- I'm perfectly fine with my girlfriends in terms of comming out of my shell- but when im around guys I suddenly switch to the "oh no what are they going to think about me" mode- and I would most always flub up. Most of the time this ruins my potential with a person I have a very strong attraction to. Ive worked on the visualization techniques, the "not caring" nonchalance and the funny/recreational-oreinted personality, but for some reason, the emotions get the best of me and I become prey. I am a great person and have tons of self respect, but for some reason, in particular cases I feel that my footing has fallen out underneath me, and I almost alllllwayyyss appear needy and desperate and it just sucks any confidence I have out of me when the guy sees it and runs, and then it becomes a situation where I want to try again etc.HELP!
2006-12-22
07:48:12
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