My husband is an alcoholic and I need help coping and deciding on my next move. He goes to AA meetings but I've always resented that AA insists that alcoholism is a disease that an alcoholic has no control over. I think that's not only unfair but nonsensical when compared to people with REAL TERMINAL diseases. An alcoholic can choose not to drink, I've seen my husband do it. A child cancer patient doesn't have that option. So the fact that Al-Anon members practice the 12 steps on themselves kind of rubs me the wrong way. Yes, I am FULL of flaws and stand before you by the grace of God (both 12 step ideas), but my husband is STILL AT FAULT for drinking. I like the idea of detachment that Al-Anon uses, but someone still has to pay, and I'm sick of it being me and my kids. I'm happy to try Al-Anon, but I'm just curious if there's anything else out there.
2007-02-08
12:40:27
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dani
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