I've been divorced for over a year after 18 years of a very abusive marriage. I have a new man in my life, but I'm still hearing the old hurtful things that my ex said, i.e., "I hate you", "I want a divorce", "I'm looking for someone else", "You're too fat/skinny", "Quit calling me at work", My family hates you", etc...
He cheated from about the second year of our marriage and blamed it on me. Whenever he went out of town (frequently) he would sleep with some other woman. One minute it would be okay and the next he was screaming that he hated me and wished that I would die. That's borderline personality disorder and it's the only reason I stuck around - because I knew that he was sick.
Anyway, I'm having a very rough time understanding that my new guy won't leave me. He treats me very well and tells me that he loves me often. He is very gentle with me and really understands my feelings. I told him once or twice about how bad my marriage was and the scars it left.
2006-12-13
08:45:20
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