How can I deal with cutting?

Question

Please because I am just saw my therapist and she saids have you been cutting? I lie and say no but I am going to see her on Janurary the 2nd and I am sad because now I am scared shes wanting to see if I cutted or not. But she doesn't see any of the cuts. But I feel bad and I know I should I should feel sad but any way I don't want any one to know. I need help? My parents don't know a thing! Is that okey for them to know nothing about my cuts? I have PTSD meaning post traumatic stress disored but I haven't been taking the pill that my psychiatrist gave me and now its been 35 days. What do I Do? I need to know? how do I get away from cutting? Please help?

Answer 1

I know it is hard to get away from. You are addicted to it.
My sister is a recovered cutter, and you really need to take your medicine. I know it sucks, and you probably hate it, but PTSD is not permanent. If you take it as directed, and are honest with your psychiatrist it will go away. It is a long, difficult journey to happiness, but I am sure that you can get past this and do great things.
An important thing for you to learn is proper coping skills. Most people cut to cope with things. They dont know any other way to relieve their stress. Great skills to learn to do when you are stressed include writing, art, yelling at the top of your lungs, reading religious books or prayer of any type, no matter what your faith, and listening to music. Have your doctor help you find what triggers you to cut, and when those triggers happen, pull out your coping skills. Dont let things get so stressful that you want to cut, try to do whatever activities you choose regularly, and it could even help you learn something about yourself or see the situation with new perspective.
As for keeping this a secret from your parents and doctor, please dont. I know it is embarassing, but they want to help you. If you really dont want to tell your parents alone, your doctor could do it with you. Doctors have a vast knowledge regarding your problem, and can help explain things to your parents in a way they can understand. A lot of kids tell their parents things like this alone and they are unprepared for how to help. Your doctor has lots of experience and wants to help you.

Remember, the pain is temporary. The cuts will heal. It is not hopeless, and you will get better. I hope you have the best of luck in your journey

Answer 2

I have to show my therapist my arms because she always wants to see them. Any way you need to tell your parents even if they can't figure out why tell them. You need to tell the therapist about that sweety cause one day you are going to be ending on the streets dead. Dead I tell ya. But you need help. Think about positive things. PTSD my family member has it. You really need to tell your therapist the truth even if your parents are going to find out. I have been were you've been. It feels so much better knowing that i am not cutting any more and people make you feel better then crap. Just take your medication before your mom catches you and puts you into a place were you don't wanna be. Get help and tell THE TRUTH!!!!! Even if its hard. DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

If you don't feel comfortable telling your parents, definitely talk to your therapist about it. She won't judge you, she's there to help. Tell her you're concerned about it, and want to stop. She'll work through the reasons behind the cutting with you, so you're able to stop.

I saw a movie where they had a really good statement about cutting. That it made the girl who did it feel better, because she would cut to display her pain, and then watch it heal. Maybe there's something else you can do that helps you see the beauty in yourself, and in life.

You will get through this, I promise! Start by sharing this with your therapist. You'll feel such relief that someone else knows, and that she can help.

Answer 4

Tell me what is the reason you cut? Is it to feel better about yourself? Why are you not taking your medicine? Try instead of cutting when you get stressed, have a bad day, or mad or what have ya, write down your feelings in a poem or something. OR instead of cutting yourself get some scissors and cut paper into pieces until you feel better. Just try keeping yourself busy so you don't have time to think about cutting anymore. If you need to talk to someone besides your therapist give me a shout my email is open to you.

Answer 5

First I want you to go to http://www.Psyke.org They have a lot of info on cutting, ways to cope, ways to stop, ways to get help, etc. Read some of the stories and definately read the ways to cope. They helped me, I'm pretty sure at least one of them will help for you. After that, try anything that you feel is right that won't put you in danger. Try distracting yourself any way you can. Read, listen to music, go for a run, go to the movies, anything. Just put yourself as far away from the cutting as you can. If you feel like you absolutely must cut: Be with another human, preferably who knows about your problem and won't try to talk you out of it. I know for me at least I usually can't if other people are standing next to me. Self injury is a very private thing, you don't usually share it with others. Also, that way if you do end up cutting and hurting yourself they will be there to take you to get stiches or whatever else you end up needing. If you're wanting to get rid of any scars Vitamin E works very well. I really encourage that you get some help, as self injury usually becomes a psychological addiction that just covers some other underlying problem. I know it sounds stupid, but you really should talk to someone about it if you can. It will take courage, but if you can get up the courage it will start to work out. If you feel like you need to talk to someone right away, or start having suicidal thoughts call hopeline www.hopeline.com and get a referal. No one is going to look down on you because of this, they will only help if you will let them help you.

Your therapist needs to know. If you aren't being honest with her then the therapy isn't helping at all. Not to try and put you off but if she's trained in psychology she could probably tell if you were lying so there's no keeping it from her. Just tell her that you were nervous and that you had cut and that you haven't taken the meds and that you need help. That's what she's there for. She wants to help you, but she can't help you if she doesn't know what's wrong. Good luck.

Answer 6

Why do you feel bad? You need to admit to yourself that you have a problem that you can't control, which means it isn't your fault. How can you take responsibility for something you can't control? It doesn't make any sense.

Tell your therapist now. It's hard to make that leap of faith, to trust your therapist, and to rely on them to deal with your problem, believe me I know from personal experience. You just have to do it, like jumping off a high diving board, work up the courage and let it rip. They want to help you, and they've probably seen much worse so any feelings of hesitation are completely unnecessary. Besides, that's what you're paying for, isn't it? :-)

You'll feel much better when you aren't suffering through this all by yourself.

You can't stop this by yourself. Admit that and be ok with it. Then call your therapist and dump the problem in her lap.

Good luck! Don't get hung up on "cutting" as something uniquely problematic. It sounds very similar to bulemia or addictions, just a way to feel in control when you aren't in control...

Answer 7

I'm sorry to hear this. One suggestion is therapy again. If your in the new York area there's a great program called four winds, its wonderful and really helps. If that's not an option then when you feel like you have to cut stop and think of the road ahead. Is cutting worth it? Think of why you shouldn't cut. Hope I helped, take care

Answer 8

Tonya, your cutting is not your fault. It's biochemical. You have low beta-endorphin levels. There is help available.

Go to http://www.radiantrecovery.com and either e-mail Kathleen directly or post on The Community Forum and find out where the right support for you is at that website.

While you wait for your response (it could take overnight), read up on beta-endorphin at the website. Find a list of gentle B-E raisers and see if you can build up a reserve supply of BEs.

Post again at The Community Forum and learn all you can.

You can heal this, Tonya. It's biochemical. You can teach your body to manufacture beta-endorphins in a healthy way instead of by cutting. It will be good to understand how your body works and why you are cutting.

Let me know how you do with this.

Answer 9

It almost sounds like you want your therapist to be proud that you haven't cut? Probably because your ashamed of cutting? Which is understandable. But your therapist is there to help you get better, if you really want to get better you need to be honest with her. Even tell her that you lied the last time. You don't need to feel ashamed of yourself. Getting help is the first step, it's a hard step to take but things can get better. However when you lie your only hurtting your chances of getting better. You want peoples help here but they ocan only give you suggestions. It's up to you to help yourself. I know being honest can hurt even worse then cutting yourself. But confronting your issues can help make you stronger.

Answer 10

Cutting yourself, wow thats deep. Look you should really ask this to a family friend or someone. First off take your pill, I know its annoying, (I had a mild case of depression in highschool), but it usually works. Now think why do you want to cut yourself, tell yourself that your better than this & you need to stop. Tell yourself all the good things in your life & how they outwiegh the bad things.