i feel really down and depressed?

Question

have suffered with depression for a long time. can't seem to lift the cload. second christmas without my mom, don't feel i can cope. know i must go on for my my grandsons sake. feels like i have lost all interest in life itself.

Answer 1

Hey dudet,

Know the feeling. Its hit me very hard this time.
Suffered for years with depression, you are not alone in struggling.
Its a biatch when it gets the better of you an I know how hard it is to be posotive, regardless of everything thats good in your life.

Just take it step by step, forget what you can't do right now an just hang in there.
You know from your experience your feelings will change again, I know there's no set time pattern but you know it will.

Keep talking on here, we are out there listening an wishing you support.

Big mental hugs to ya gal.

Feel free to message.

Don't stop fighting it.
If its kicking you kick it back.
You can beat this. I know, cus I have to beat it to.

After the darkest night comes the brightest day.
You can handle this.
Come on.

Answer 2

Hi HoneyBun - the Holiday's make our depression worse. Everyone so happy and holidayish - made me sick. Well, I lost my dad a few years back, feels like yesterday. I have a daughter age 7.5 and you have a little one. We do need to go on and make the best of it for them because this is the type of people we are.
I went through 3 therapists before I finally found the one I felt comfortable with. I felt like what am I doing, unloading on a stranger, a person I don't even know and I'm allowing him to invade my personal life. Guess what, well after seeing him for 7 years, I feel great. Last saw him 8 months ago. I have a different outlook on life and everything - noone knows my problems or my inner thoughts - just this person that will keep all my secrets in strictist confidence. He also worked at my pace and resolutions to my problems were around my personality. He basically helped me iron out the things I've had bottled up for years and stayed by my side when I made my own decisions on things. I feel like alot has been lifted from me and life doesn't seem so bad. For your grandsons sake, please consider some form of counseling, even with your pastor. Enjoy your grandson and the rest of your family through the holidays, and then after, please think of your needs. It's okay to do this once in a while you know!!! Best of Luck to you and Happy Holidays!!!!!

Answer 3

We all go through different stages of depression/disappointments in life at some stage or another. It's how you manage to cope and deal with them that saves the day. A few years ago I had serious depression - we'd bought a restaurant in Cape Town which was seriously crippling us financially, I'd enrolled my daughter in boarding school (missed her terribly) we never had a life at all with working all the hours of the day, serious theft problems at the restaurant and I was hooked on anti-depression tablets. To top it all my dad suffered a serious stroke and my mum, a diabetic, kept on lapsing into diabetic coma's!!! I was the only child in South Africa as my brother and sisters had moved back to the UK. If I think back now all I can say is: What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger!! There is always someone worse off than you are. I used to pass squatter camps on the way to work and have witnessed weird diseases when living in Tanzania (elephantiasis, leprosy etc) Be positive, you'll get through this and become strong!!!!!

Answer 4

Think of others ie your grandsons. They don't understand but to them Christmas is THE best time of the year. Try to look back and find out where you have gone off track. If you feel the love of others in your family it should help. We are all important no matter how little one rates themself. If you enjoy others they will enjoy you and that gives us a reason to go on if nothing else. At all costs avoid daytime TV it dums the brain. get out for a 5 minute walk every day and it will brighten you up. Start tomorrow. Promise.

Answer 5

i too have lost interest in life lately i hate christmas it's not the same since my dad died. i've been depressed for years all i can say is take one day at a time and although this may sound selfish you need to go on for your sake as much as your grandson. if your not already on medication go and see your doctor see if they willl help you
my thoughts are with you i very often try to feel a bit brighter by thinking other people are going through the same thing at least it's not just me xx

Answer 6

Im sorry that you feel the way you do. I've been through periods in my life that i have needed clouds lifting but the only way is to lift them yourself. The answers are in front of you. Realise what you have and not what you have lost. Remember the good times you spent with your mum and look within your heart to find a push factor to hawl you out.
It doesnt happen all at once. Its taken me about 2 years now to get over my depression and anxiety attacks. I have found that the best release has come with spending my time productively instead of moping around in my own little world. Keep your brain active and you will find what your answers.

Good luck :)

Answer 7

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Have the courage to invest in your own well being. I wish you well.

Answer 8

Go see your doctor and try out the medications. SSRI antidepressants. They make a massive difference, with no ongoing side effects. There is no sense in suffering on like this.

Answer 9

Tough one that! I too suffer from low mood. You need to speak about stuff I think! Go see your Doctor he will advise you on the way forward. If you have already seen him - go and see him again! Be honest in wot you tell him or her! It's nothing to be ashamed about!
Good luck and love x

Answer 10

dont look on the downside of things. look at the blessings life has given you already and be thankful for hwat you do have not dwelling what you dont. I am a Christian maybe u need to seek God, no im not going to bible bash you.. I hope you have a good Christmas this year and sounds like someones grandson is lucky to have a grandmom like you who cares so much =)