Do any of you blame your parents a lot for what you have become?
And what's the healthiest way to handle this?
I know there are many people that are mad at themselves because they are bad-tempered, or sloppy, or very shy, or financially inept,or whatever.
They are well aware of the problem and one day,either by themselves or with the help of a therapist, they realise their bad behaviour can be traced back to some flaw in their education or their relationship with their parents.
So they end up blaming it all on their parents and hating them no end.
The scary part about it is that most of the time the link between education and the bad traits later in life actually MAKES A LOT OF SENSE.
But even so,blame and hatred themselves are not very helpful and won't solve the problem.
As you can imagine, I'm there, too.
And I would hate ending up being resentful all the time but never actually doing anything useful to change.
Have any of you been here yourselves? What's the healthiest way out?
2006-11-25
21:38:40
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36 answers
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Vicki G
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