I met this lady about a month ago, and she seemed kind of forward to me at the time, but she was going thru a messy divorce and told me that her husband had been beating her, ect so I tried to help her as best as I can. She seemed to need a friend, so I tried to be there for her. But she kept calling and calling me. She also talked to my husband a lot. I grew suspicious that maybe she's after him because he is a really great guy. Then one evening I went to bed early and left my kids with my hub and her.
She started digging all sorts of information out of him about me. Next day she called me and told me some of what he said. Nothing big, just personal stuff. So I asked him and we talked about it openly, as we always do. It opened up some communication and we got closer.
He called her to thank her for telling me but when she found out we didn't fight she started shouting on him. Then she called me (I had already spoken to him and got the story straight from him) and told me all lies about him, that he threatened to beat her, wanted to meet her alone so he could hurt her, he wanted to take her dancing (I know, makes no sense!) ect. Actually it was really apparent she was LYING. She badly wanted my husband and I to fight, but we just talk and got closer instead. So now she was trying this new tactic.
She called my cell phone the next day, but it was with my husband as I had left it at his office. She apologized to him and indirectly started trying to convince him to go for divorce and why did he marry me, ect? (they are both from same culture, so she tried to use that to get to him.) He just hung the phone up on her and immediately called me and told me what she said. We both decided she was trying to be a homewrecker and we won't answer anymore of his calls.
BUT- and here is the big but- she keeps calling ME over and over again, leaving nice messages, ect. She keeps pursuing me. We are starting to think we were wrong about her motive, and maybe she is not after him, but after ME. And that makes sense because she told me that she hates men and prefers company of women. I didn't understand what she was telling me at the time tho. Now she called 16 times in the last hour and I am not picking up the phone. She is only calling MY cell phone, not his. I think her next move will be to show up at my door. She's like that. Looks like she wanted my husband and I to fight because she is pursuing ME. He also told me that whenever she talks to him it is ALWAYS about me, never about anything else.
I am interested in getting a third point of view here. Are we wrong? Should we give her a second chance? How do I react to all of this?
Thanks ahead of time.
2007-12-19
16:27:57
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Minerva
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