I have been in 2 school plays so far and I feel as if I get no respect. The freshman that has been in the exact same 2 plays get more respect than me. Even the directors I feel don't respect me. I have been getting extremely mad at this and I would like nothing better than to wish the worst for them. What makes even madder is that this guy who came in at the middle of the year gets a ton more respect than me. I would really like help with this problem because it is making me really depressed.
2007-12-19 15:50:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I totally understand how you feel. I've been there, so my advice to you: stop worrying so much about making people respect you, actually, to get to that you have to respect yourself first and then respect people around you. Only then, people will start seeing you in a diferent way (not mentioning that realizing all this will make you a much better actor for sure). But, of course, You should always have in mind that sometimes you're gonna find someone who doesn't like you just as you won't like certain people from time to time either Trust me, you're not the only one, my grandma always says that if you can say that you have had at least ONE true friend in your whole life you should consider yourself veeeery lucky. That's life. Good Luck!
2007-12-19 16:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by respect, but being an actor myself and having performed in 26 plays during high school alone. You have to pay your dues.
Sometimes simply you are just not the best person for that play's lead and you simply get pushed into a smaller role dispite experience or relative acting ability.
Having a smaller role often means less one on one time with both other actors and the director. Simply not having the chemestry that comes with this extra time may seem like a lack of respect...but it is simply a matter of time.
Try not to take it personally or get angry, just have fun and try to grow and learn from every role you play. Some of my lead roles taught me less than my beginning ones. High school theater is about having fun. As long as you manage to achieve that goal your on the right track.
2007-12-20 00:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by mesacrasy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Middle school and high school is all a big popularity contest. I'm sure it's just because people think he's sooo popular and deserves respect so they're with the "in" crowd. Don't believe for a second anyone that says people don't play favorites, either. I think that's what's going on with the directors. You shouldn't let it bother you and just do the best you can. And always remember that it's the popular kids that amount to nothing when they grow up, especially jocks.
2007-12-20 00:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that some actors do not hit their 'light' until the right role comes for them, or even as they get older. I understand EXACTLY what you are going through as I went through it myself. Just try and get the best parts you can and make the most of them ( and don't over act or try to hard to work the part ). Remember, you are playing a role, a character, a part, which doesn't mean you get to be the star all the time or even any of the time. The joy of acting comes from being able to be in another place at another time and to live that existence - not from 'critics' or others. You act because you like to and want to, not to earn respect. Especially in high school. Hell, Robert Duvall plaed a talking cactus when he was in high. Kevin Costner played a corpse in his first 'big' role with no lines. Give it time, my friend, you are in too much of a hurry.
2007-12-19 23:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by commonsense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight up. Talk to the directors. Ask them if you are doing something wrong or what you can do to feel like you are respected and valued more. Once you tell them how you really feel, maybe they will change their ways. Sometimes people just overlook other people, not realizing how it hurts them. Talk it out, maybe it will get better.
Good luck!
2007-12-19 23:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by Denise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you never get respect being mad. I've been dealing with the whole try so hard to be liked and someone does a better job and everyone likes her, I get lonely some time 2 but no one likes a sour kid. Your in drama you like to act, act like the girl u want to be.
2007-12-20 00:01:52 · answer #6 · answered by Someday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you defining respect? Maybe you are viewed as cocky and difficult to work with- but maybe not.
From the sound of your post, you sound angry and they can sense that anger. Maybe it's not about disrespect, but about not wanting to be around someone that they feel is angry or bitter.
I would look at yourself and see what you are doing to 'invite' the disrespect, instead of blaming them for not respecting you. If the problem seems to be a general concensus with everyone else, then the problem may be with you.
2007-12-19 23:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Meghan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like these others are better actors than you and are receiving the respect they have EARNED.
I would be as best as you can be as an actor and then maybe you will earn the respect of others.
2007-12-19 23:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by Skully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit. Or prove all of them wrong by becoming the best in the school and make them wish they respected you.
2007-12-19 23:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by girl.with.a.plan. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? Are you seriouse? You don't and won't gain any respect being involved in High School drama.
2007-12-19 23:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by Rowz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋