Family & Relationships - 6 February 2007

ok, So I am not american, so the stripper thing at bachelor's party for me does not make sence. But my boyfriend is american. everytime we talk about bachelor's party we end up fighting, cuz even though he has never been to a strip club, and says he is going to tell his friends that he does not want strippers in his bachelor's party I dont believe him. For some reason I feel like I am going to be very upset right before our wedding. it even makes me not want to get married.
I just think it is so disrespectful..makes no sense according to my culture.

2007-02-06 19:33:41 · 12 answers · asked by happygirl 2 in Weddings

2007-02-06 19:33:13 · 5 answers · asked by IYER S 2 in Singles & Dating

Can you see the endless row of children hawking
The needless shame of the young Quakers sold
Stealing the childhood of the child
The little voices that laugh and sing
Of having a friend come to play,
Can you see the truth captured in every glance?
The defiance and anger in every set of jaw
The echoing reality that shouted at me
None of these things I wished upon them,
Can you see the stress weakened looks and limbs
The corner of the will seeking the kill
The laughter that hid behind the well of tears
Braced against the loss of crumbs,
Can you see the raw and opened face of pain?
Reflections that manufactured the African child
Smiling to hid the rejection and abuse
Something I knew and write about,
To study them at this point in life
From the monuments that assaulted my mind
With no defenses against the onslaught
I present before you a child longing for love

"this is a true life experience that is taking place around me, my niece has been taken to live with an aunty, and such thing is common, you may say the aunty is rich, but what of the child, it is easier to say she was send there as a house help...true, later you wont be able to tell the difference between being a house help or a slave,

she is in lagos and because i dont want her future to be destroyed i continously move from my office (www.bellsuniversity.org) to lagos, 50 mins everyday after work, the streess is worth it, and also am trying to put a good reasoning to the kin mum (kid? she is 14). what advice can u give

2007-02-06 19:32:56 · 1 answers · asked by urdeen s 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

what color hair
what color eyes?
what size boobs?
how tall?
if your a guy i want to know your personal info...thanks

2007-02-06 19:32:02 · 9 answers · asked by Danniele E 1 in Singles & Dating

I need to know what are some signs that a guy likes a girl as more then just a friend. The boy I'm thinking of is 15, and one of my best friends. I can't ask him straight out because he calls me weird and ignores me. He's a 15 year old boy, they do that. My problem is I'm biast since I happen to like him. I don't know if you could maybe help me. Just some signs to look for? I'll include a little detail. Lets see. We play fight. But he'll take it a step farther. He puts his arms around my shoulders, but only when we're "playing". We'll touch hands even when it's not nessecary. Like if I'm passing him gum, we'll touch hands for a few seconds. And wghen we sit together, he pretty juch presses his side against me. Plus, he's always trying to tickle me. He's also been trying to touch my face whenever possible. He tells me all the time he wishes I would stop wearing hoodies and my hair up in a ponytail. Sometimes he tries to act cool in front of me. It drives me nuts. I'm running out of space. I know this is a rather immature question. But as I happen to like the retard, I'm hoping you'll put up with it.

2007-02-06 19:30:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am still in love with my ex gf. I am trying to get her out of my heart, but I cant seem to do it. We knew each other for 3 years and dated for a year and a half. We did everything together and it was great. But she had an ex bf that she was still in love with. Even though I won her over her ex bf, she went through alot of emotional pain when I was with her. She did used to cry about him when I was with her. Even though I was seeing her while this was happening. About a month ago she got harder(emotionally) and we fought over stupid things that I didnt even cause. I mean I stood up for what was right, in my eyes, of course I took on every angle. When one night about 31 days ago, she kissed this "friend" of hers that she must of known for a max of 2 weeks and they have been together ever since. I am 25, she is 26. I dont know what to do, I am finding it difficult not to contact her and I do think about her often. I am the kinda guy who loves deep and I find it hard to move on.help.

2007-02-06 19:30:04 · 7 answers · asked by stephen b 1 in Singles & Dating

pls help me!!!!!!!!wat should i do

2007-02-06 19:29:52 · 8 answers · asked by IYER S 2 in Singles & Dating

what do u call relationship that has no emotions in it but physically very attached, literaly?

2007-02-06 19:29:52 · 6 answers · asked by enmaidliya 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-06 19:29:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

What do you think? Sick or natural?

2007-02-06 19:29:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

whenever i do prayer with full determination i never get answer . i want to become the strongest person from everything wise in terms of professionally, mentally, emotionally,financially, physically, but i dont feel that, i want to remove all the negativity and flauses i m carrying with in me. but i am not able tyo remove it. i want to rise from everything wise in my life but i am facing so many problems in my life i am not getting that much support from my husband also tell me what to do

2007-02-06 19:27:43 · 20 answers · asked by SUNAINA N 1 in Marriage & Divorce

It's in the process and no way do I "feel" married to her anymore. I am not the instigator of the divorce, but four months have gone by and my wife did not want counseling from the start.

2007-02-06 19:27:34 · 8 answers · asked by Delta Charlie 4 in Marriage & Divorce

There is no sparkle in my eyes nor roses on my cheeks.And i look sad too, If any of you believe in prayer remember me,

2007-02-06 19:26:52 · 12 answers · asked by becca 2 in Singles & Dating

When you've not seen her in a while?

You sorta know who she is and all...but you know, questions to make conversation....

2007-02-06 19:25:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

do you guys like russian peolple if yes then why do you like them if no then why not??thanks

2007-02-06 19:24:49 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

when a man calling a girl heard a love song as a caller tune even not sure for whom the girl has kept it and the next day he says that we will just be frnds without love in between us. what does this mean??? He is a person who always gives the negative expecting for the positive. for eg. when he was frnd with a girl last time for years he was expecting her, but she has not even when he talked that he is going to get married. now what is his motive in saying this.

2007-02-06 19:23:44 · 11 answers · asked by rsmm 2 in Singles & Dating

How about if a friend (boy), not a boy friend, after going to church (he told the girl to come to his church, he invite a girl to have lunch in his home, and the girl eat together with him, not include his parents, but he introduce the girl to his parents. What the meaning of that boy ? whether he only just a friend with the girl or something else ? but the boy is really strange, sometime call the girl, but not so often, and not yet declare if he has a feeling or not with the girl.

2007-02-06 19:19:55 · 19 answers · asked by angon_mouse 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-06 19:18:37 · 16 answers · asked by Omkar 2 in Singles & Dating

of things i know i did. yet she refuses to even talk with me, and i am trying so hard to hang in there, but she is blocked by something greater than what happened with us - now she has reported me to the police and one more contact and i go to jail for a very long time - so why does she contact me want to meet but hasn't removed the reports? i don't understand. i have a huge move on th 16th, i tell her I WANT and NEED to see and hear her but she acts like i am invisible - how does someone do that? i am afraid she will never see me as THE ONE anymore - and that is my only fear - i asked her to take the day off weds and have breakfast with me and her reply is she is a lesbian? this has gone on fer 7months, i don't think i can last much longer, i have told her that. but when i invite her for a meal, i am a gentleman, she knows me, she stands me up, then posts that i just wanted to fcuk her. can anyone tell me how to reach her because i know she is not well and really does love me. ideas?

2007-02-06 19:17:35 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

there is this guy at my skul, he really cute n i like his personality, we hanging out alot, n m starting to kinda kile him, is there a problem with that?what do i do about it

2007-02-06 19:17:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend and I have been childhood sweethearts since 8. We were inseparable and we practically grow up together, he lived next door, were classmates all the way from grade school to high school and we took the same course in college just to stay together. I know very well that he wanted to be a priest since we were children, but he gave up that dream because his father, a doctor, wanted him to take up a medical course. We were on our 3rd year in college when his father died and a few months after he came up to me and tells me that he really wants to be a priest and plans of entering the seminary. He'd told me that he really did love me but God's calling was far more stronger than his feelings for me. I guess that was the most painful time of my life that I thought I would die but I love him so much so that i would not want to be the hindrance of his dreams, so I let him go. Where do I start? What should I do to forget him when all that I see reminds me of him?

2007-02-06 19:17:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Here is the exact route of the relationship

A in Clan 1 produces two sons B and C
B produces daughter D, while C produces son E
E produces son F
D gets married to Clan 2 and produces daughter G
Daughter G gets married to Clan 3 and produces daughter H
H produces Daughter I

Question?
Can daughter I in Clan 3 get married to son F in clan 1?

2007-02-06 19:16:54 · 5 answers · asked by richard o 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My friends are bullying me , but i don't want to fall out with them or get them in trouble because one of the only does it when the other is around and some of the time they are the best mates some one could want. What should i do?

2007-02-06 19:16:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I leave for the Navy soon, and I do not need anything else on my mind. I've started getting very close with a girl I've known for awhile now, and it seems no matter what I do to prevent myself from falling more and more for her, it doesn't help. We both know this shouldn't be happening, but we can't help it. I would like us to just stay friends though. But unfortunately, it's more than that. I don't want to be thinking about her 24/7 while I'm gone... and not be able to be with her. She's also in college out of state. Should I just stop speaking with her before it gets any worse? Anyone been in this situation kind enough to give some advice? Thanks.

2007-02-06 19:16:33 · 6 answers · asked by mr_wizard 1 in Singles & Dating

he is kind caring etc..but he doesnt seem to want or need sex..i have treated him or taken him for granted and ive done a few things unfaithful etc..but he turns a blind eye..is this normal for a man to do without sex !!!

2007-02-06 19:15:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I love this guy and he doesn't want me to love him bc he thinks he'll die... what do i do??
I come from a military background. I am used to figures of my family being overseas and elsewhere. I love families that are apart and still have the desire to want to be together. Military life can be very rewarding. Jim is going to be a Navy Seal. He tells me that he thinks that I deserve a man that is going to be around for things. BUT, the way I see it is this... I love him, and I want to do this, no matter what the circumstance. I am one of those women that can handle this kind of pressure and it excites me. I am very proud of him and want him to succeed. But, I also need to know what I need to do to assure him down the road that I will not cheat and that I will forever be supportive of his decisions? Do I insist? Do I lay off for a while and keep in touch and then gradually show MORE interest. He already knows how I feel and he said that he's willing to go against the odds for me... but he thinks that I will not like it. What do I do? I am going to do this, how do i?

2007-02-06 19:13:29 · 10 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

I married 5 and am currently divorcing again. They ran out of money.

2007-02-06 19:13:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i just caught my boyfriend together with the other woman...we fight...i was realy shocked that she choose that woman instead of ..we've been 8 years...and he met that woman 2 months ago...i had quarrel with them..and to the point that we hit each other...i was really really shocked that he kick me...he cover that girl so that i can't hit her...and the worse is they are still together right now..but i heard from his friend that the girl will return to her province....my question is..what if after what had happen he will come back to me and asking sorry..what should i do? shall i accept him and give another chance? please help me...

2007-02-06 19:13:05 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-02-06 19:13:05 · 36 answers · asked by mini r 2 in Marriage & Divorce

first, we are teenagers.i have this female frd that i like a lot. however, we live quite far away, and we don meet very often. i confessed that i liked her, but we figured that its the best we get to know each other more before going further... but there's always this problem.. i think... i know she has a guy frd and she thinks he's very funny.. and despite the fact that she said she likes me... she seems to talk to that guy more at times... and have more fun when he's around? even though she said they are just friends..isnt she and i just friends as well?..... i really want to get to know her better and see if we can go farther... but with this x-factor, im not sure if this relationship will even get anywhere(unless they are really friends..but how do you explain that she talks to him more?is this normal or not?)... what do you guys think? i really need some suggestions on what to do. i really like her.. but sometimes this problems make me think all she wants is just be friends.

2007-02-06 19:12:40 · 7 answers · asked by tmackun135 1 in Singles & Dating