he is kind caring etc..but he doesnt seem to want or need sex..i have treated him or taken him for granted and ive done a few things unfaithful etc..but he turns a blind eye..is this normal for a man to do without sex !!!
2007-02-06 19:15:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think it's normal... But my husband is kind of the same way, he has very little interest in sex, and as far as I can tell, he's been this way his whole life. (We've been together for two years, and it's always been 1x/month on the average.) It's been suggested by doctors that he take a blood test to measure testosterone levels, as low testosterone causes low sex drive, and it can be easily treated. Perhaps the same can be suggested to your SO. I'm actually happy with the way my husband is, as I too have a low drive, and we have a lot of ways in which we express our love that have nothing to do with sex. But I imagine, for some people, their mate's lack of interest in sex can be troublesome.
2007-02-06 19:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not normal and that's why your so lucky. you've got a once in a life time guy . Maybe he doesn't like boring, run of the mill sex, which is what u get if u jump straight into bed with each other. You know he loves u and one day you'll be happy you had faith in him and waited. You could try and make that day come sooner by making suggestions etc...
Or it might be much more sinister, he might be grooming you to rape you. See: everyone thinks your a perfect couple, so nobody would ever belieive you.
Or he's got some sexual disease he can't bring himself to tell you about for fear of losing u.
2007-02-06 20:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by FIZZYMIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit him down and talk to him and tell him how you feel. What happened in the past is the past now. You need to find out if anything is bothering him and let him talk, dont butt in. Maybe even go out for a meal and talk about it, that way you or he cant shout at each other. Some men dont need sex as much as others, but do talk about this situation you two are in.
Good luck
2007-02-06 19:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its because u say u don't wanna sex with him then claim he doesn't with u. u get hurt when he wants u and tries to please u and u call him a perv then talk about 3somes, anal sex, swappin sperm, things if he said u would kill him for. and, how often did u just please him? when was the last time u did for him what he does for u - this is not about him its about why u need to punish and hurt him. i've heard women who have had great sex lives claim later their man is worthless. ladies, if u want keep the one u better stop the games and really screw his brains out the next time u see him or else u'll have insecurities and fears forever.
2007-02-06 19:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is gay?
What man is going to 'turn a blind eye' on you being unfaithful...?!
Why not speak to him about he feels your sex life is, and how it can be improved?
2007-02-06 19:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by ஐ♥PinkBoo - TTC #1♥ஐ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
must be something realy wrong with him, i wudnt last a week without it, so if he,s not putting out , then i suggest you get out, and the best of luck with the unfaithful bit, go strut your stuff babe, or give me a call you wont have to stray again.
2007-02-07 09:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...... Dr Nicky's advice - If in doubt, throw him out!!!
It's fine if you don't mind not getting laid, but if you're frustrated, get out of it! Life really is too short!
Also, it's not fair to either of you. You're being unfaithful - he deserves to know even if you're contemplating it - and you deserve to feel valued and loved in a physical way. Time to break away, sweetheart!
Good luck!
2007-02-06 21:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Nicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he is gay. He is too easy to turn a bling eye to you being unfaithful.
2007-02-06 22:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by fancyface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've been together without sex? that is surprising... have you ever initiated going to bed or arousing him or whatever? watch a porn movie once in a while to see his reaction, ask him what he thinks of having kids and starting a family ... hope he will realize what you mean ... good luck
2007-02-06 19:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by majal_lu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if the man is gay then yes this would be very normal.
2007-02-06 19:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by darlin0043 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋