ok, So I am not american, so the stripper thing at bachelor's party for me does not make sence. But my boyfriend is american. everytime we talk about bachelor's party we end up fighting, cuz even though he has never been to a strip club, and says he is going to tell his friends that he does not want strippers in his bachelor's party I dont believe him. For some reason I feel like I am going to be very upset right before our wedding. it even makes me not want to get married.
I just think it is so disrespectful..makes no sense according to my culture.
2007-02-06 19:33:41 · 12 answers · asked by happygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
sorry. My question is...is something wrong with the way I think?
2007-02-06 19:38:43 · update #1
I understand your point. It is not that I don't trust him, I just feel like his friends would do it anyways...
2007-02-06 19:45:13 · update #2
I agree with you 100 pecent, stippers shouldnt go near a boyfriend/girlfriend and for sure not near a man/women who will be getting married. Its not that you dont trust him, its that its wrong to have a naked girl or male near them to look at, it just seems like they need a girl or man rather than what they already have to be happy. You need to tell him flat out and make it clear that you wont stand for it, that if you even think that a stripper was near him that there wont be any wedding happening. Tell him that you feel that if there was a naked girl or any girl in that matter showing body parts and him being entertained means that hes not happy with what hes got, and insults you. Tell him that its cheating in your eyes, and a lot of others people eyes as well. Tell him that you trust him and believe that he wont be anywhere near a stripper or any girls that night and for now on, but you just want to make it clear how you feel and that your serious. You dont want him to break that trust, or there isnt any hope for yous.
2007-02-06 22:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with the way you think because I also think it's very disrespectful for a man who is about to be married to go see naked women dancing around him, and I am American. The way I look at it, if he didn't have time to go or didn't go out with the boys enough before he got engaged, tough. He should have thought about that before he put the ring on that finger and made the ultimate commitment to the woman he loves. The whole "last-fling" is just nonsense.
My boyfriend and I have talked about the whole "traditional American" bachelor party and we both agree on not wanting to see strippers. We've said on many occasions that if we were to get married we would have a combined bachelor/bachelorette party and just go out to a bar, club, or restaurant together and have all of our friends and everyone in our wedding party with us. Suggest that to your fiance'. If he doesn't go for it, let his friends/groomsmen know you both agree strippers would not be the direction you would want to go and would appreciate it if they respected your and your fiance's wishes. Ask if there's something else they could do for the night that everyone would enjoy without having to see naked women, such as a comedy club or a bar to have a few beers and play pool. If they don't listen and still take him out to the gentlemen's club, they don't respect you or your fiance' and never will.
Good luck finding a solution! I hope I helped!
2007-02-07 02:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how secure you are and how mature he is.
One year, I actually sent my husband and his Marine buddies to a strip club for his birthday because I couldn't think of a gift he would really like. Needless to say, I was the "cool" wife for quite a while! And yes, he had a lap dance--I asked and he told. It wasn't a big deal.
In my younger and wilder college days, before husband and kids, I used to go to strip clubs with friends and I PROMISE you these girls only want your man's money-- they have no desire for anything else! I watched many of my guy friends get shot down by strippers after they had given them all their money at the stage!
If strippers do show up at the bachelor party and your boyfriend tells you about it, remember that they're strippers, not hookers! Big difference!
By the way, Dita von Teese is a stripper and a very beautiful, elegant lady. She's also an accomplished model and award-winning actress and has a contract with MAC cosmetics.
2007-02-07 01:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by Angela B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all American men want strippers at their bachelor party. There's nothing wrong with the way you think, but it wouldn't hurt to look into different opinions about strippers.
2007-02-06 21:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you cant trust him. He told you that he does not want strippers at his bachelor party. You do not believe him either because he has a history of lying to you and does not deserve to be trusted, or you are too insecure since you are not able to take his word that he will not have the strippers at his party. If you can't trust him, now would not be the "ideal" time to get married. I agree with you that if you request he does not have strippers that he should fulfill your requests since you are supposed to be the love of his life, the one he would DIE for.
2007-02-06 19:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by VGFan 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm. You don't beleive him? You are going to marry a man that you do not beleive. That makes very little sense. That is not a good way to think. What has he done to make you not trust him? Is it a fear that he may come home with a stripper? I hope not because that only happens in the movies. Good luck with your wedding. The marriage is doomed though; until you can trust more.
2007-02-06 19:44:08 · answer #6 · answered by twism 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Something that people are starting to do a lot these days are having there Bachelor & Bachlortte parties together.Then you know what the other is doing and there will be no fights.
2007-02-07 04:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband went to a strip club for his bachelor party. I was fine with it as long as he told me beforehand and there was absolutely no touching. He was upfront with me about the entire night, and that's what matters, his being faithful and truthful with you!
2007-02-07 10:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-07 00:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Makes no sense to alot of Americans also(like me).If he respects you and doesn't want this decision to put a permanent damper on your marriage...he won't do it.
2007-02-06 19:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by Direktor 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋