first, we are teenagers.i have this female frd that i like a lot. however, we live quite far away, and we don meet very often. i confessed that i liked her, but we figured that its the best we get to know each other more before going further... but there's always this problem.. i think... i know she has a guy frd and she thinks he's very funny.. and despite the fact that she said she likes me... she seems to talk to that guy more at times... and have more fun when he's around? even though she said they are just friends..isnt she and i just friends as well?..... i really want to get to know her better and see if we can go farther... but with this x-factor, im not sure if this relationship will even get anywhere(unless they are really friends..but how do you explain that she talks to him more?is this normal or not?)... what do you guys think? i really need some suggestions on what to do. i really like her.. but sometimes this problems make me think all she wants is just be friends.
2007-02-06 19:12:40 · 7 answers · asked by tmackun135 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
p.s. what kind of things can i ask to find out if she likes that guy or not?
2007-02-06 19:23:31 · update #1
ps. at this stage, what can i say to her on valentine's day? before, i was thinking about showing more of my feelings... what can i say now? =\
thanks so much for helping guys.
2007-02-06 19:29:04 · update #2
Look dude . you said you are teenagers!
you dont have to look for a relationship that ends to marriage or something like that!
try to learn life from this relatinship & enjoy your life!
i wans a teenager when i had my first G/F & we were together for more than 8 years! but finally we found out its better to see more people in our lives!
dont expect your first (if it is)relationship gets to anywhere!!!
be her friend & be nice together even if she is not yours!
2007-02-06 19:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I tell you from my own experience . I am in my 30s so I have more life experience than you . I have many guy friends myself and that I never had any kind of sexual relationship with and I never will . For a female is easier to open up to a male friend than a female friend since there is no jealousy between a male and a female . For a female is more important to be a friend with a guy than being sexual . Females always looking for someone that care about them and sometimes they can find this in a guy that they are not sexual with . My guy friends are very caring and they are always there for me more than my female friends . Specially when you are in a highschool or a university this friendship bond between male and female can become very strong since you spend lots of time together . I have friends from university who are just like my brothers . So just give yourself a chance to know her better . I totally understand it is hard for you to see her spending time with another man , we are all jealous that way reagrdless of age or gender , but love and relationship is all about sacrifise and undersatnding . Just tell her you like her and go out with her and never regred if it didnt work out . I wish you the best of luck ... Enjoy your teen years .. it never comes back again
2007-02-07 03:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well youre not her boyfriend so you really have no say. but there should be no worries. the first thing you must obtain is trust. whats a relationship without trust. you must trust her and what she says if you want more than friends. if you make a big deal of it now.. you'll just push her away. i have a boyfriend and i love him! but i also have a guy best friend. my boyfriend gets really jealous all the time.. but he knows that what we share is something soo beautiful that no one can come in between. i love them both.. but on different levels. there are some things i share with my bff that i cant share with my boyfriend. i dont know what i would do without either one of them. you just have to trust what she says.. if she says she likes you then what are you waiting for?? you like her too.. dont push her away before you get to know her
2007-02-07 03:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by prettiness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance equals the rate times the time---too far away to spend any quality time--equals no time--face facts, be friends and be looking in your own neighborhood--concentrate on school--that's first---the social stuff will be there always--let it come naturally---and with someone close enough to enjoy---That's a fact, pal
2007-02-07 03:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang a similar position for myself. Ask her what she looks for in a guy and see if that man has those qualities. also try n get her "caught" or just be straight up and ask her what she thinks ofthis other man if she says "o he's ok" but looks away from you she's lieing, or if she tries to change the subject quietly. I suggest learn to read girls and their motions it helps alot.
2007-02-07 03:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by bboyballer112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told her you like her? unless the other guy likes her and she likes him too. then you have a problem. but you might be overreacting a bit. theres always someone you get along with really well and you can still be friends. but you better go get her before she gets taken.
2007-02-07 03:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by blob888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait and see if its ment to be it will be... if you push yourself into her life further than shes willing you will loose her as a friend also
2007-02-07 03:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by jingles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋