My boyfriend and I have been childhood sweethearts since 8. We were inseparable and we practically grow up together, he lived next door, were classmates all the way from grade school to high school and we took the same course in college just to stay together. I know very well that he wanted to be a priest since we were children, but he gave up that dream because his father, a doctor, wanted him to take up a medical course. We were on our 3rd year in college when his father died and a few months after he came up to me and tells me that he really wants to be a priest and plans of entering the seminary. He'd told me that he really did love me but God's calling was far more stronger than his feelings for me. I guess that was the most painful time of my life that I thought I would die but I love him so much so that i would not want to be the hindrance of his dreams, so I let him go. Where do I start? What should I do to forget him when all that I see reminds me of him?
2007-02-06 19:17:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, don't forget him, and even if you try, I garantee that you won't. and he will not be able to forget you either. Beautiful meomories and people that we love are not meant to be forgotten even it they have to go, even if it meant feeling pain to remember them.. You just said that because you are hurt by his leaving. Even then, he is not really lost. Maybe physiclly, you won't be able to do the usual things that you both do togetther but he is still there. He just choose to travel another path, and a noble one.
You should be happy for him for finally he found the chance to fullfill a longtime dream and you paved the way in that fullfillmen by sacrificing your love for him. God knows your sacrifice and he will reward you for it in the right time. so don't depair. Find confort in the knowledge that you were able to love him and he loved you in return and no matter what, you will also be part of him too. Be thankful that you lost him because of his desire to serve the Lord and not for the desire of being with another woman.
It does takes awhile for the pain to subside and to get used to being alone and dong things by yourself but eventually time will heal the wounds and you will soon get used to it. Just don't lose faith and hope both in yourself and to God.
In the meantime, It will do well for you to sort your feelings out to a trusted friend. You may want to be alone for awhile or cry your heart out, Go ahead, it does help to pour out one's emotions rather than keeping it inside but don't wallow in it for a long time. When you feel better and you're ready to face the world, go out, go to the beauty salon, have your hair or nails done. Do anything that makes you feel good and refreshed. Go with friends, take a vacation, joiin a club, do volunteer work, get into sports or a new hobby. Don't leave a minute without anything to do. Keep your mind busy so you don't drift off thinking about him too often.. Lastly, don't forget to pray to God.
So there you go, hope this will all help you. Good luck to you and hope you'll be on your way on the road to healing.
2007-02-07 16:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by astral 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is a real heartbreaker. How was your sex life? ... Maybe he will change his mind when he is in the seminary. If not then I guess you are going to have to live with his decision. There is really nothing you can do. You did know that this was his dream before. You are going to have to keep yourself busy and try to go on. Of course you will never forget him or the love that you have for him but you are still young and you need to go on. Stay busy. Good luck.
2007-02-06 19:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my,wish i could say a magic word that would help u forget him. Live town,start a new life with new pepo,live everything that reminds u of him,u will oways remember him but this helps a little.
2007-02-06 19:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down with a friend and get your feelings out because it sounds as if he has made a decision to not include you but that is o.k. you can move on with the support of friends. Good Luck!
2007-02-06 19:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by LSD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should seek the only option which is God and if it ain't effective you should seek some guidance
2007-02-06 19:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by wacha_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry for you.
2007-02-06 19:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋