Family & Relationships - 14 November 2006

My boyfriend has this ex who he says is the female version of him. When I asked him why he would want to date me over her, considering we're very different, he said, "I like different things. I don't want to be with myself." Even so, they dated for 3 years (and even lived together). He broke up with her right before we met, and though we hung out for a month before we started dating, he essentially wasn't single for long. I know I'm not the rebound because rebound relationships don't last for very long. Even so, he's going to see her over winter break, and he lives across the country, so I won't get to see him (I offered to come visit, but he said that freaked him out a little because he's worried about things moving too fast). He and his ex talk a lot, but he's constantly telling me how I'm the smartest, most beautiful girl he's dated. He's told me a lot about her and I know he just feels really bad for hurting her. Do I have a right to be jealous? How can I stop feeling it?

2006-11-14 10:44:19 · 5 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Singles & Dating

I am 24 years old never had a girlfriend and only been on 3 dates in my life. I was wondering if this affects any chance of dating or getting a girlfriend.

2006-11-14 10:44:14 · 6 answers · asked by JoeDraco 4 in Singles & Dating

I already KNOW that most men are bonkers for sex. But are there some men (not boys) out there who could take it or leave it? Maybe even live without it? Have a blase attitude? Why?

2006-11-14 10:44:09 · 8 answers · asked by Ade 6 in Marriage & Divorce

would you still date a girl if she sometimes wears stockings/thigh highs? the striped kind, different colors. and she wears mary jane shoes sometimes..or heels. and wears skirts with them obviously.

2006-11-14 10:44:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I slept with this guy two times before but after learning more about his past experiences I don't want to have sex until he gets tested.

Yesterday we were close to doing it again but I stopped him cause all I could think about was STDs and how I didnt know if he had any. He stopped, no questions asked and was sweet about it.

We've talked about sexual things before but this is different and I never asked anyone to get tested before that I just had a casual relationship with and dont want him to think I want anything serious with him just because of that.

How do I approach this? What should I say? Is it ok to be straight up about it and tell him nothing will happen until I see the results or should I be more subtle??

PLEASE HELP! And please, only constructive answers no judgments, I dont need that right now. Thanks!

2006-11-14 10:43:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

there is a girl i have been talking to through e-mail. i am just getting out of a relationship and we don't know each other well so we decided to take it slowly. she said in time she can tell me if she likes me too. but now she says that she sorta likes someone else and thinks they might like her to. so i'm really confused and don't want to get too invested but i don't want to not try at all. so what should i do? getting over her will not be easy. she is the most beautiful girl i've seen and i really like her mind and heart.

2006-11-14 10:43:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

okay,so theres this cute boy named caleb and i really like him.he is popular,very popular!but he does not talk to me.but then on the other hand,he stares at me for a long time,(not in a mean way),during class.and one time when i went to tell the teacher something,i was staring at caleb's book and he put up bunny ears (you know with your fingers ex:ll) and smiled.but i don't know if he was smiling at me.he is soooo cute but he's going to a different school next year.should i tell him i like him before its to late?and does he like me back?

2006-11-14 10:42:37 · 7 answers · asked by Sheila 2 in Singles & Dating

I feel lonely and depressed Well I was wondering why you are single, not to be mean but like you don't want to or you don't get asked or like guys or girls around the world dodn't know love b/c I don't feel like it!! How can I get a guy to love me or talk to me???

2006-11-14 10:42:26 · 1 answers · asked by mandy 2 in Singles & Dating

a girl hangs with a guy after a few drinks he asks if he could kiss her she says no but gives in and they kiss anyways, but then they see eachother again sober, he is all nice and holds hands, hugs her blah blah but no kiss...when saying bye she is ready to walk away but he reaches out for a hug she hugs, he hugs tight and kisses her on the lips but a regular kiss with closed lips so she does the same. What do you guys think is happening or happened?

2006-11-14 10:42:12 · 6 answers · asked by Luna 1 in Singles & Dating

I really like him and I told him. But he thinks another girl is hot and she is older than him. What shoould I do.

2006-11-14 10:41:32 · 5 answers · asked by Daiseee 3 in Singles & Dating

me and my b/f were real serious and we were gonna get married but my parents are forcing us to break up. he says he'll wait for me, which is a few years. this other guy likes me and wants to have a relationship with me. i dont know whether to break it off with my b/f and go out with this other guy, or stay with my b/f until we are allowed to be together without a problem.

2006-11-14 10:41:15 · 10 answers · asked by mareena_nin 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-11-14 10:41:00 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I always open the car door for my girlfriend, but sometimes she says "you don't have to" but I always say "I know I don't have to, but I want to". Do you like it when your boyfriend opens the car door for you?

2006-11-14 10:39:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Okay, my friend Marisa is mad at my other friend Emily. Marisa threatened to kill her and stab her with a knife. But that was only when she got bipolar. SHe doesn't really want to kill or hurt my friend, but she's bipolar so she can't help it. She doesn't even remember telling Emily she was going to stab her! What should I do? Ther both my friends, but I want to keep Emily safe, so someone has to be protecting her every second. Sometimes I hang out with Marisa, and sometimes Emily. Help!!!

2006-11-14 10:39:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Im 18 and my bf is in his 30s, every1 is like date guys ur age but they r so immature and act like frat boys

2006-11-14 10:38:58 · 36 answers · asked by a36dbabydoll 1 in Singles & Dating

my ex bf killed himslef and i havent let go of him and i still love him and i told my new bf and now he thinks there something worong with him and he said y even bother with me when iam like that and if we did break up with him who will go out with me mean iam gothic,emo,smoke,witch

2006-11-14 10:38:05 · 3 answers · asked by bluelapo 2 in Singles & Dating

She's the cousin of the same cousins I have. I'm related to them through my dad's side. She is related to the same cousins through their mom's side. So, I'm of no relation to her. We don't have the same grandparents or anything, so not 2nd/3rd cousins. No relation at all. But it just seem too close for comfort. Is it wrong to like her? I thinks he likes me but she is too shy? Maybe shes thinking the same way I am? How to approach her? What to do?

**IMPORTANT FACTOR**
When we were younger we were like "best friends" or what ever you want to call it, and our parents would joke around saying "watch those two get married when they're older"
And... the people on my side of the family tease me about her and ask me if I like her and stuff. It's like they want me and her to get together, but I don't know. Need outside advice. I wonder if her family teases her too?
HELP.

2006-11-14 10:37:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i tell lies and i don't want to do it anymore. most of the lies i tell are about me....making me look better in others eyes. i hate this about myself. i don't know why i do it. is there help for me? is this an actual condition, or am i just a bad person?

2006-11-14 10:37:53 · 18 answers · asked by ? 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Once you tell a guy you like them, they become distant from you? Or is it another reason why they ignore you.

2006-11-14 10:37:45 · 10 answers · asked by me 1 in Singles & Dating

"I heard a guy pointed a gun to you and said you have two choices, either suck his d(*& or get shot. Glad to see you're alive."

I'm straight and he posted it on myspace for everyone to see which suppose to be a joke.

2006-11-14 10:37:30 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

the Man she had been sleeping with has been living in my attic for a month and i had no idea. when i say living, he has a furnished room..
i came home early from work last week and heard something and then caught them in the act. when i told him to go home, he went up to the attic. i followed him to find that the storage room had become a bedroom. i went to confront my wife and she had already left (i haven't seen her since).

in order to get him out of the house i have to evict him...according to the police.
i am so upset right now. since my wife left, i have no one to help with the bills.. should i just charge him rent so i can make ends meet? he doesn't have anywhere to go.

2006-11-14 10:36:59 · 52 answers · asked by Italian Stallion 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i love this guy so much but he says he wants only sex and he doesnt give the chance to get to know eachother and i have said and shown how i feel about him.R there any ways to change how he feels?

2006-11-14 10:36:36 · 2 answers · asked by sophie c 1 in Singles & Dating

I went out with this one girl at my school, we broke up a couple of months later. She says that she doesnt want to go out again, and just wants to be friends. Problem is that she is always hugging me, and sitting on my lap, doing stuff just to get my attention. Can anyone shed some light onto my situation?

2006-11-14 10:36:22 · 11 answers · asked by WizardWOR 3 in Singles & Dating

im a senior in high school and cannot stand school. i walk around the hallways and just see all these people together and boys and girls talking (girls never talked to me) and i always get upset. ive only got a few "friends" and feel like i dont exist. i feel so left out and now with everybody talking about myspace i totally feel left out because when you look at it it seems like a popularity contest. i just want to be someone, be more noticed, be accepted. i cant stand being a nobody in school. i think im done with life it suxx

2006-11-14 10:36:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Last year on the bus to school a girl I knew from former soccer games of our brothers and basketball and baseball games sat with me because she saw a mean sixth grader was bullying me. Our brothers were close friends and we dance together. She was a really cool kid and soon I became obbsessed with her. I knew someday we would be great friends. That happened and since then I have had her over three times for a sleepover and six for a "playdate". I have never seen the inside of her house. I would like us to be friends but how is that going to work when I'm the only one trying to have her over. E-mail me and answer. My yahoo is Saammmmmy@yahoo.com!!

2006-11-14 10:35:58 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Someday when my children are old
enough to understand the logic that
motivates a parent, I will tell them:


I loved you enough... to ask
where you were going, with whom, and
what time you would be home.

I loved you enough... to insist
that you save your money and buy a
bike for yourself even though we could
afford to buy one for you.

I loved you enough... to be
silent and let you discover that your
new best friend was a creep.

I loved you enough... to make
you go pay for the bubble gum you had
taken and tell the clerk, "I stole this
yesterday and want to pay for it."

I loved you enough... to stand
over you for two hours while you
cleaned your room, a job that should have
taken 15 minutes.

I loved you enough... to let you
see anger, disappointment and tears
in my eyes. Children must learn that
their parents aren't perfect.

I loved you enough... to let you
assume the responsibility for your
actions even when the penalties were so
harsh they almost broke my heart.

But most of all, I loved you
enough... to say NO when I knew you
would hate me for it.

Those were the most difficult
battles of all. I'm glad I won them, because in
the end you won, too.

And someday when your children
are old enough to understand the logic
that motivates parents, you will tell
them.............

My Mom was mean. We had the meanest mother in
the whole world! While other kids ate
candy for breakfast, we had to have
cereal, eggs, and toast. When others had
a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch, we
had to eat sandwiches. And you can
guess our mother fixed us a dinner that
was different from what other kids had, too.

Mother insisted on knowing
where we were at all times. You'd think
we were convicts in a prison. She
had to know who our friends were, and
what we were doing with them. She
insisted that if we said we would be gone
for an hour, we would be gone for an
hour or less. We were ashamed to admit
it, but she had the nerve to break the
Child Labor Laws by making us work. We
had to wash the dishes, make the beds,
learn to cook, vacuum the floor,
do laundry, empty the trash and all
sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would
lie awake at night thinking of more
things for us to do.

She always insisted on us telling
the truth the whole truth, and
nothing but the truth. By the time we were
teenagers, she could read our minds.

Then, life was really tough! Mother
wouldn't let our friends just honk the
horn when they drove up. They had to
come up to the door so she could meet them.

While everyone else could date
when they were 12 or 13, we had to
wait until we were 16.

Now that we have left home, we
are all educated, honest adults. We
are doing our best to be mean parents just
like Mom was.

I think that is what's wrong with
the world today. It just doesn't
have enough mean moms

2006-11-14 10:35:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I live with my grandmother who seems to do it her way. Everything i do, to her is WRONG. She used to physicaly hurt me. like punch, slap, and puch around, she also calls me names like; failure, fatass, and she tells me my parents dont want me. My mother was into drugs, and my father was sleeping around. I've been threw alot to have to deal with this. I moved to a totaly different state, to a totaly different setting. I've only got untill May 25, 2007 till i'm done with school, but its making it hard to study. It hurts my feelings and its hurtting our realtionship with her also. I don't need this.

2006-11-14 10:35:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

amie is her name and we talked i noticed she was waiting for the bus i caught her in the corner of my eye i turned around and i said hi to her we talked finally , we have been smileing at eachother and runing into each other for a couple of months now both of us to shy to get to know each other, i told her for my introduction "i dont see her at the gym any more" did she get the hint , anyways i am sick and tired of beating around the bush with this girl its time i stand up and be a man and tell her whats up what do u think and how should i do it

2006-11-14 10:35:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

how far in advance would you send out wedding invites if it's out of town for most people?

2006-11-14 10:34:12 · 20 answers · asked by rudyzacksmom 1 in Weddings

We never talk in person, he is single, and everyone says that he is so sweet. I really want to be friends with him again but he never talks to me. I feel like he doesnt like me because i am not the most popular or something. Boys will be boys, but i am really in need of him. I think. We havent talked (in person) since 2nd grade. Should i just move on? Advice?

2006-11-14 10:33:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating