Family & Relationships - 15 October 2006

Everytime in the last couple of months i get more and more turned on by my gf everytime im with her.And many times even when she's not there.Sumtimes ive to hide my...well u know the hard mass from her.Once she felt it when we were close...i tried to get her expression and it looked as if she was trying to hide a smile.I dint sak her anyhting as i was too embarassed.One time i cud cleraly make out wen she put her hand on it to c wheteher i had one(i almost came in her hand) and then quickly changed the topic.Now she's 18 and im 19.I dunno how to bring out this topic to her...coz i luv her and i dont want this to end with her thinkin im some pervert.i want this to continue.So shud i ask her to go for it as in u knwo the next step or shud i just keep quite?It's not that she's totally religious or anyhting it's just that everytime i picture even bringing out the topic i picture the worst .Also are these signs of deprivation?Have i acted too late or am i jusst goin too "Woof....Woof"?

2006-10-15 08:09:55 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I I met up with an old work colleague on a dating site earlier in the year, since then we have been chatting online and have done some gentle flirting... I went to his work place, (not as a stalker but since its a recreational place where he works) and I said hi as I walked past but he didn't speak, we chatted online last night and I suggested that we met up and I was as open as I could about how I felt about him but he hasn't replied, and hasn't been online since, What have I done wrong? Have I been too overpowering / too forward?

2006-10-15 08:09:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i would sleep with all of them is that wrong?????

2006-10-15 08:08:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

me and my boyfreind have broken up iv been beggin him to take me back im the one who called it of after an argument but after a week id missed him coz i loved him so much but he wouldnt take me bek coz he said the way id called the break up hurt him and he still is playing hard to get i asked him to come fix something at my place only coz i miss him not coz i cant do it myself. iv tried to make him come over he wouldnt so i had to tell him iv visitors and i urgently need help thats when he said he would but the thing is he is coming over and sleeping at mine do you think its right to seduce him and have sex with him to make him change his mind on me and how do i do it.guys how do you react to this i want my man back pliz help what shud i do. am i pushing him what do you think.

2006-10-15 08:08:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm a young man and have been broken a few times, and each time it has happened, it gets harder for me to get up.

I am now at a point where I just cant be stuffed getting into another relationship, and its been about a year. I know I'm an attractive young man, and I have no problems getting female attention or dates. The problem is, my heart is in a mess. I dont know what to do. I have no interest in hitching up with a girl just for the cheap company, I am above that, not to mention its unfair.

But yet, I cant help but feel lonely. I am sick of yearning for that special girl, especially when I dont know who she is. Sometimes I think I may have set my bar to high. You say go meet new people? I have, and I only see repetition, fakeness and shallowness.

So tell me in all your wisdom, what has become of me? I am a walking contradiction, and I dont know what to do. The pain of solitude is slightly more bearable than another awful mistake. The innerworkings of a Scorpio here...

2006-10-15 08:08:19 · 7 answers · asked by Lucky 1 in Singles & Dating

i have been dating a lady longdistance, we havnt gone further than dating yet, and we chat for hrs one thing though is confusing me a bit, my gf says she has an hiv test every 6 months cos 4 yrs ago, and she says she hasnt slept with anyone else since , they had lots on unprotected sex, do u think she is teling the truth and just being safe or do u think she is lieing and still have unprotected sex and not telling me, apart from this she is perfect and a lady and everything i cud ask for

2006-10-15 08:07:32 · 16 answers · asked by mikealedmonds 1 in Singles & Dating

Believe me i noe it sounds pethatic and immature but i am tired of everything. I am in love with a good friend of mine and she does not feel the same and Believe me I have tried so hard for the past 6 month to get over her but I can't. Tonight we had a fight because der is something she is not telling me since she thinks it might hurt me. It's worse cause i keep thinking what that could be. a boyfriend or .... I am sure I would be happy for her because all i want is for her to be happy with or without me but i am tired of being kept in dark. I noe i will never love anyone else since der is no more room in ma life and those who say time will heal it i guess 8 month is almost enuf to at least make small changes but all i have is a crazy love for someone who will never love me back ...

2006-10-15 08:07:30 · 10 answers · asked by bandari 2 in Singles & Dating

Should I move out?
My Problem is this:

When I was in primary school I fell in love with a boy called Skye

But then when it came too high school, he got sent to a private all boy's school far away and I got sent to the local comprehensive.

I thought I'd NEVER see him EVER again and despaired...as I really did love him.

Around about the same time my Grandmother of whom I was VERY close to died. She practically raised me.My mother never seemed to bother with me. However I never noticed this neglect (by my mother)until my Grandma died.

I noticed that I was very unsupported by my mother and in general uncared for. Sometimes she was also emotionally abusive towards me--sometimes she could be so nasty she'd make me cry.

Because of all these things(the death of my Grandma, the loss of Skye and also the uncaring attituse at home) I began to feel very depressed.

Then I made a TERRIBLE mistake:

Somedays I felt so low I found it almost impossible to think about the future and sometimes couldn't find the will-power to get up in the mornings.I started to refuse to go to school asn I felt so low. I'd been bullied VERY VERY badly at the primary school i went to (before I moved to the one Ian was at)which also made me quite nervous of people and scared of school too.However I recieved no help, no counselling or anything(do you think this was neglect?)

I refused to go to High school on-and-off for the first three years by which time I was REALLY REALLY very behind in my work.I then refused to go to school altoghether as I couldn't cope any more with my life. I was SEVERELY depressed and wasn't thinking logically. I ended up having 5 measly hours of home tuition per week, for the next two years which should have been spent in school. Unsurprisingly I then failed all my GCSEs (apart from one, where I got a 'C' in English)I felt so depressed. I then have stayed at home doing nothing for the past two years as I have felt too embarrassed to face the world.

However this is my problem:

I am now 18...it has got to the point where I can't do nothing anymore..I HAVE to do something with my life.
I now want??/need to go to college. However I have just found out thet the college I wanted to attend is right next door to the top educational sixth form which Skye goes to. If I go there then I will definantely bump into him&but the thing is he will NEVER EVER be interested in me now (even if he used to be when I was ok).how on earth canI explain to him WHY I refused to go to school? Hes going to think I am a bad person .

But the thing is he's studying 'A' levels at a top sixth form college. And I .....will probably have to go on an Entry level course and learn really basic stuff like how to cook, use public transport etc(basically for absolute dim-wits)

He'll NEVER EVER be interested in me now. He's in a different league to me. He's so clever.but this is killing me. I wish I could be with him more than anything in the world but as soon as he finds out that's it....my dream...dead......finished

Also even if I go to a different college, it's inevitable that i'll bump into him whilst out and about anyway.(I just cant believe that I DIDNT THINK ABOUT THIS years ago&.i just wasnt thinking properly) But If I ignore him then he'll think I'm not interested i him, when I am. But if I talk to him he'll not like me anyway when he finds out what I've done. He'll think I;m a terrible person.


Also, one of the reasons why I couldn't cope with school was because of the neglect/emotional abuse that I suffered at home. I thought that if I moved out into the local Foyer/hostel then it would offer Skye a bit of validation that I couldn't cope with/was having a bad time at home and he might believe me then when I told him about the neglect. But....if I stay where I am (living at home with my parents) and go to college then he's going to wonder why it is that I can cope with education/school/college now....but not back then...in short he's going to think I'm making it up about the neglect.What should I do about this?
Should I move out of home?. WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT ME MOVING OUT? If i moved out then I thought it would offer Skye a bit of proof/validation that what I told him abou the neglect/me having difficulties at home was true...so he'd believe what I told him. Do you think I should move out of home and into the local hostel/Foyer? It's just ....if I don't move out then he'll wonder why it is that I couldn't cope with living at home and education back then...but can now. In short he'll think I'm a liar and I'll lose him.

Also sometimes I don't think I can bear to face Skye at all.... and so.......
i HAVE DEEPLY CONSIDERED going to Wales and living in a Foyer/hostel there................... so that I never have to face Skye ever again (because it's inevitable that we'll meet) WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THIS IDEA? I live in England you see...in the North West of England.
Or could I move out to Wales for a few years.....then after a few years in Wales once I've sorted my life out (away from Skye) then come back home/to England again ...and try to find Skye then? Or do you think this is a stupid idea?

PLEASE HELP!!!

2006-10-15 08:07:29 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

me and my lover had a fight now... he broke up with me.... he humiliated me ....i love him and i can't live with out him...but if i go back he would think am weak and humiliate me more....what can i do ?:(

2006-10-15 08:06:52 · 13 answers · asked by sweet cherry78 2 in Singles & Dating

my best friend knows this other girl from her old school. and i absoloutly HATE her and so does my friend how do i tell her 2 stop buggin!

2006-10-15 08:06:23 · 7 answers · asked by Sonia A 1 in Friends

2006-10-15 08:06:23 · 19 answers · asked by artful dodger 3 in Family

this is alittle complicated. Ok every year I set up a christams mission for my 2 little sisters. On christmas eve they get to sneak downstairs to see what "santa" brought and they get to look for clues that "santa" was here. it has been something i do for them every year. they love it. my question is, what else could we do on christmas eve to celebrate "the mission" ? any craft ideas? stories? anything?

2006-10-15 08:06:02 · 2 answers · asked by uluvme8807 3 in Family

2006-10-15 08:05:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

im not a sl*ut of any kind.it just certain boys i desire sexually.i do not have sex wit them just in my head.

2006-10-15 08:05:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok i know i may be asking the same question over and over and talking of the same guy as in my previous questions.but i cant help it i m seriously too depresed and i need to listen to peoples mature advice..so what happeend is that this guy who i have been hanging out with so much and did stuff with..well he left yesterday to another sttate...and he isnt the commitment type so i guess he just had his fun with me...so before he left i thot he wud ask me to meet or something but he DIDNT EVEN CALL before he left..so i decided to call him..and he was in the airport..but when i call he talks properly but HE HIMSELF didnt call..now what do u think of that??? and right now its mornign and hes gone an i feel so depresed and Im missing him SOO MUCH but he proly dusnt care he will just go there and play around with other girls..plz tell me how to get over this guy>> I NEED TO GET OVER THIS GUY..i m crying my eyes out everyday..HOW do i realize that Hes NOT WORTH IT??

2006-10-15 08:05:12 · 8 answers · asked by M 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-15 08:04:54 · 2 answers · asked by Domie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-10-15 08:04:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we've been together for almost 7 years. i went to different country to work for 6 months after the training i found out that he got another girl pregnant. we haven't saw each other for one year planning to go back this december. How will i react if i saw him with the gurl and the baby? do i need to talk to him when i saw him?

2006-10-15 08:04:19 · 8 answers · asked by pink_sling 1 in Singles & Dating

Killing innocent people is wrong , insurgents, where did these verses come from?

(1) The Moral Law; (2) Heaven; (3) Earth;
(4) The Commander; (5) Method and discipline.

Disciplined and calm, to await the appearance
of disorder and hubbub amongst the enemy:--this is the art
of retaining self-possession


The general, unable to control his irritation,
will launch his men to the assault like swarming ants,
with the result that one-third of his men are slain,
while the town still remains untaken. Such are the disastrous
effects of a siege.




How victory may be produced for them out of the enemy's
own tactics--that is what the multitude cannot comprehend.


If the enemy is taking his ease, he can harass him;
if well supplied with food, he can starve him out;
if quietly encamped, he can force him to move.



Whoever is first in the field and
awaits the coming of the enemy, will be fresh for the fight;

2006-10-15 08:04:18 · 2 answers · asked by Mojo Jojo 2 in Friends

in the relationship kind of way? He's a guy

2006-10-15 08:03:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

its been a month hes not bothered to get back in touch :(
hes my very good friend n i really like him alot.
i miss him n his stupid lil conversations....
he was my best bud..
i mailed him n tried my best.... nothing is wrong.... but WHY dint he reply???
i cant forget him
nor i can think of moving on cause hes ALWAYS on my mind,,,,
i dont think i deserve this....................... :(
i want him back :( :( :(

2006-10-15 08:02:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I know this guy for about two months now and we talk time to time... we've became distance from each other. is there any way getting in contact again? or has he moved on?

2006-10-15 08:02:31 · 5 answers · asked by lovargirl158 2 in Singles & Dating

And you have just met him. Do you tell your friend?

2006-10-15 08:01:03 · 3 answers · asked by the phoner 2 in Singles & Dating

I work with a woman, who's husband is in Iraq. She told myself and a few other people, that she's having an affair on her husband, she said, sexually, she has needs and she wants it from a man, being that her husbands away, he's not here to give her what she wants. She asked each one of us, what we thought, when she asked me, I told her that i didn't want to say, because it's none of my business, but she insisted, that I tell her how i felt about her having an affair. So i told her that I understand she has needs, but morally, she was wrong and the fact that she's telling people about her affair, makes it even worse. I told her that it was wrong to be sleeping with other men, while her husband is over in Iraq, literally fighting for his life, on a daily basis. Well guess what? After asking me, to tell her how I felt, the ***** got mad at me, how in the hell, can you get mad at somebody, after you told them to be honest? I told her she was crazy and i walked out of her office, into mine

2006-10-15 08:00:51 · 17 answers · asked by A_WWE_FAN_4LYFE 6 in Friends

Okay, my little brother is 10 and he is a real pain in the butt. I know all little brothers are annoying, but mine just ticks me off beond measure. During church today he was whacking me with a piece of paper and laying down on across 3 chairs. He is taking medication for his hyperactivity, but this morning, I thought it just wasn't working. As it turns out, he lied to my whole family and HADN'T taken his pill. When he doesn't take hiss pill, he is hyper and a big jerk. When he does, he just becomes more of a smart-*** and a jerk. Please help!

2006-10-15 08:00:22 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Need to find my sister's email address. Can some one help me?

2006-10-15 08:00:15 · 3 answers · asked by sassibutswt2 1 in Family

im not very good at online role playing could use advice

2006-10-15 07:59:08 · 17 answers · asked by ladyJ 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Not speaking from personal experience - my clothes wouldn't fit my husband!

2006-10-15 07:58:51 · 36 answers · asked by Ally 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

I met my wife in a state where neither of us were from, when we go married, we moved by her family. It was important to me to live by some family even if not my own. Two years later, we argue terribly every time my family comes to visit or when I try to plan a trip to see my family. We've only gone a couple times for two or three days. My wife has no problem with my family members, but they do not have the same ample living arrangements that we are used to having. We might have to stay on blow up mattress, or share a single bathroom between 5-10 visiting family members. Also, some of my family is rough around the edges, but never rude. I know that these things make it difficult for my wife, but they are people that I care deeply about, and I feel that it is her responsibility to deal with the less than ideal situations. I feel that I would do this for her. She feels that I am not sensitive to her feelings. I tell her that for my family she has to put her feelings aside. Am I wrong?

2006-10-15 07:58:32 · 11 answers · asked by DG 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-10-15 07:58:15 · 5 answers · asked by Leslie B 1 in Singles & Dating