Family & Relationships - 3 October 2006

11 years ago my husband and I broke it off for a while. He was seeing someone & I was seeing someone. I decided to take our children (w/ his approval) and move out of the area. My then boyfriend was not going with me. After moving away my husband and I reconciled and have been happily together ever since.

Over the last 11 years I have secretly kept in touch with my ex. He also seeks me out. There hasn't been any sex or anything like that. We honestly are very close friends now. We haven't actually seen one another physically. I have no real desire to see him, as I'm unsure of my feelings, I love & adore my husband too much to put myself in a situation, that even if we do nothing, I will not be trusted, it will only look bad.

The thing is, I hate keeping this secret but I like my friendship with my ex. I know that telling my husband will mean the end of our friendship. As I said, I don't like keeping the secret. I struggle with whether I should tell him or not. What would you do?

2006-10-03 11:44:37 · 19 answers · asked by Chris 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I said it today and he hasn't said it back, and I feel somewhat rejected. He says he's not freaking out, but didn't say anything else. I've been on the other side before, my ex said i love you to me and i didnt say it back. I've never done this before. What if he won't ever love me? I'm worried about that. What should i do?

2006-10-03 11:44:36 · 9 answers · asked by azn_chick 1 in Singles & Dating

I'm not dating a hot girl anymore. In two senses:
1.)I broke up with my attractive girlfriend.
2.)I've decided not to date a hot girl again.

Dating a hot girl is great, since you're constantly thinking about having sex with her, and you get to. It's really fantastic. BUT!! (and this is a big BUT) it comes at a cost. Gather 'round, children.
Girls are like starving jackals when it comes to complements. Complement them on their shoes, and they'll stave off complement starvation for a little bit....but they'll need to feed again. Soon. Hot girls are the fat jackals that get food tossed to them. They go through their day being admired, stared at, and complemented for everything they do from buying a bagel to passing gas ("Dude, that hot girl farted." "AWESOME!") so they begin to define themselves by their hotness. Because they're validated so regularly, hot girls get a self-esteem defined by others, and a sense of entitlement that could match your average NBA player.

2006-10-03 11:44:23 · 10 answers · asked by Mike 2 in Singles & Dating

My boyfriend has been divorced once and his ex will receive half of his retirement for an agreed period of time. Well now my boyfriend is going through his second divorce and today at mediation, the agreement he was advised to take was that his soon to be ex will receive half of his retirement for an agreed period of tme. My question is, if both ex-wives are entitled to half each, how will this work? Will ex #1 get her money first then after she receives all of her money does ex #2 get her money? If both exes get half of his retirement, both can't their half at the same time, right? If both were to be paid at the same time, he'd have no retirement money to live on.

2006-10-03 11:43:28 · 2 answers · asked by maryannmccarthy2003 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-10-03 11:43:21 · 16 answers · asked by Cruz Alberto 1 in Singles & Dating

How often does your man get access to your b00bies? I think it should be all the time but my girl says not until she is ready... but that is only about once a month... how much is ok and should I try to be happy? I think that I should be able to play anytime that we have time... she says no? Would you let your fella, or should I divorce?

2006-10-03 11:43:01 · 7 answers · asked by 57chevy 3 in Singles & Dating

you knew he had a small penis. not extremely small but about 4 inches hard. but he had a good personality and was funny friendly and treats everyone respecfully.and his income of money isnt high but isnt low.

2006-10-03 11:42:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I met this guy this summer and he is fantastic. He is sweet, caring, compassionate, smart, and he has a lot of the same interests I do, and an amazing smile. I love him so much, and we are good friends. How can I let him know I love him without losing our friendship? Please help. He has seen me at my best, and at my worst, and I love him so much, but do not want to lose this valueable friendship.

2006-10-03 11:42:55 · 3 answers · asked by East 12th Street 2 in Singles & Dating

why do you ask why a guy you slept with on the first night doesn't call you again????

if you had of kept your legs closed longer than 5 mins you wouldn't have to ask the question! get some respect!

you wonder why guys think your dumb!

2006-10-03 11:42:39 · 3 answers · asked by ella 1 in Singles & Dating

he says all this stuff about really liking me, that he doesnt want me to be with any other guys, but he only calls every couple of weeks, and we never go anywhere where its just the 2 of us, just me and him and his friends. So whats goin on??

2006-10-03 11:42:30 · 6 answers · asked by ash1 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-03 11:41:26 · 18 answers · asked by question mark 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i miss my cousin she died at 12 because of her heart i have the song missing you by p diddy and faith in my myspace page and everytime i listen to it i cry

2006-10-03 11:41:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i'm trying to win a bet and i need your help... tell me what i look like. (like hot, cute, okay, normal, etc.)
http://i98.photobucket.com/albums/l268/boyluvr26/pic4.jpg

2006-10-03 11:41:15 · 8 answers · asked by boyluvr26 1 in Singles & Dating

ok well I'm with my bf and it has been over 2 months and one night I come on line after work and one of my friends is on line and he tells me that he likes me alot and that he regrets not asking me out when me and him were hanging out before and he tells me that he really likes me and wants to know if he would ever get a chance to date me some day and i tell him that its hard for me to say and that i already have a bf and he asked me if i would date him if i was single and i said that i probably would date him if i was single but that jus to keep in mind that im in a relationship...what should I do?!?!

2006-10-03 11:40:46 · 6 answers · asked by shorty_ma 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-03 11:40:43 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

theres this guy I REALLY like but he would neer guess it was me b cause he would never date me b cause im bigger than some people...

2006-10-03 11:40:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

A mother takes her 9 year old twin girls out on 'dates' - with boys they like - to restaurants. She also shaves the girls' legs for them. Does she just want them to grow up too fast or is this abuse? Is this teaching them the wrong thing at 9???

2006-10-03 11:40:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i am in a sorta sad mood so i need a joke to laugh at

2006-10-03 11:39:51 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am 17 years old and i havnt seen my dad in 13 years and i am about to graduate from high school! should i even try to get his attention, should i even try? its been my mom and i and my sister and i love it but i want my father to know i graduated right? im lost please help!!

2006-10-03 11:39:46 · 6 answers · asked by rubikisses muuah 2 in Family

i use to like a girl but i don't anymore and my other friend didnt know that and i asked the question to her "if you could change 1 thing about me what would it be??" and she replyed "that you wouldnt like her" is that a sign she likes me?

2006-10-03 11:39:12 · 13 answers · asked by blah 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-03 11:38:39 · 8 answers · asked by slai171 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-10-03 11:38:32 · 9 answers · asked by Jessica 1 in Singles & Dating

A very shy guy asked me out and i said yes he does not want to make the first move,how should i get him to talk and want to kiss me?he ignores me and barly talks to me i want him to how???

2006-10-03 11:38:30 · 11 answers · asked by queenpaintballing 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-03 11:38:16 · 9 answers · asked by Amber E 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a crush on this guy who is 26 and I am 14. I want to know if he would go out with me if I was older but I don't really want to ask him that. I know I am way to young to go out with him and my parents would never allow it. What should I do to stop liking him?

2006-10-03 11:38:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2006-10-03 11:37:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my new boyfriend aaron is so hot and nice ... we have only one day dating but i kinda sorta like someone else, I NEED TO BREAK UP with him because i dont want to be living a lie. BUT i still wanna be friends with him what do i tell him for him to understand me and to still be my frind........ HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-10-03 11:37:32 · 3 answers · asked by miley 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-10-03 11:37:26 · 5 answers · asked by someone 2 in Family

And she liked it?

2006-10-03 11:37:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

this boy in class came out of nowhere and hugged me(he was passing by) and me and him dont even talk.... what do u think this means im a sophomore in highschool cute guys really dont pay me much attention and all of a sudden they have been lately like smiling and staring..some guys have payed me attention in the pass but its alot more now my friend told me i look different in my face i dont know

2006-10-03 11:36:43 · 8 answers · asked by Tired_of _the_games 1 in Singles & Dating