can divorces have positive effects on children?

Answer 1

I believe that they can. Children are like sponges. They will absorb everything. Stress, the fighting, tension, etc. In any environment such as that, it is a good thing to get the children out, so that they can be children and not have to worry about adult issues. Just getting them out of that, is a positive thing. But, both parents need to be there for them, and make the divorce as easy as possible.

Answer 2

Being a child (well teenager) of two divorces, I'm convinced that it can have positive effects on some children. I know it has on me. It has made me a stronger person for the most part. The only way it has affected me negatively would be that I have had a hard time with my relationship with my father, it is somewhat lacking. I have managed to get past that though. I'm sure divorce has both positive and negative effects on all children. It probably depends on the situation though.

Answer 3

I have a friend who just crawled back to his wife after she threatened the kids. She's jealous. Neither of them love each other, they got pregnant 2 months into dating while both were dating other people and decided to try and make it work... Well 4 years later, I hear this... (I was on the phone): "Look into Jo's eyes and tell her we're broken up. Tell her!!!!!!!" As she threatens him with the kids, while they(the kids--he legaly adopted her first) are crying.
He has now given up my friendship because she demanded that was the only way he could stay. He has no one left as all his friends eventually leave because they can't handle the tension in that home, and he's not "allowed" to go hang out on his own without her. He stays for the children and doing the "right" things... but when does the right thing stop being right?
You tell me if that's good for the kids.
I think it's sad. While there are those who jump the gun at divorce, there are also those who cannot see beyond society's call as to what they "should" do. It's all on what's best for you. If you're not happy, you can't expect your kids to be happy. Try to make it work, but don't spend years on things that you can't change.
Kids adjust, as long as the parents are mature and try to do what's best for them. I think divorce can be a good thing.
It's just unfortunate in this day and age that we can't seem to get things right anymore. I'm babbling so I'll stop but to answer your question, I think that YES there are many positives to it, but it usually take longer to see them.
Best of luck!

Answer 4

Absolutely, the main thing is if there is somekind of abuse in the marriage, you get the kids away from all that, thats definately a plus. Getting the children from all that action will keep them from being in the middle of fights and all that, so yeah, thats a positive. There will always be questions by the kids on why, but you can protect them from that by getting out as soon as you can, if abuse is the reason for divorce. But there will always be implications that the young'uns will be dealing with all ther young lives. But as they grow older they figure out what the situation is and they are more "rezilliant" than you think. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Just like you, I am a product of a broken home as well. So, I would say that there's really a lot of negative impact divorce has to a child. However, if there is one thing positive divorce would bring to a child, that is freeing them from the burden and emotional distress of witnessing their parents fight over and over every single day.

Answer 6

A healthy environment is always positive. If they came from a home filled with obvious problems, that they witnessed or were a part of, then, obviously removing the 'problems' is a good thing. They need to know that both parents loved 'them' and both parents cannot, I repeat, cannot, trash the other but treat each other with respect no matter how hard it is to do, then children have a chance to see adults handling adult problems in a mature and responsible fashion. My answer, then, is YES.

Answer 7

I was ten when my parents got divorced. I knew it was better on us as my dad was a raging alcoholic. I was confused at first, but I started to understand. It made me realize two years ago when I became a father that since alcoholism runs in my family I do not want to get to the point where I need it that bad. So I no longer drink. I do not want my children to see what I saw. My dad is still the same way and he knows that he is not welcome at my house as long as he has been drinking. He knows I do not want my children to be subjected to the drama it causes.

Answer 8

In some cases, especially if one parent has been abusive or neglectful it can be positive, but by and large most children are damaged by the divorce process and carry life long scars. I know most people don't want to hear this, but it is true.

Answer 9

Of course if both parents then become happy people. Kids are much happier with parents seperated or divorced versus living under the roof with parents who are arguing and flighting constantly.....

Answer 10

of course they can. depending on how functional and dysfunction the family was together and separated. But it's definitely going to have negative effects the first few years.