Family & Relationships - 19 September 2006

Is it possible to love someone LESS than you did before even though they have done nothing to bring this on? Also, is it possible to have a soul-mate that you love just as much as you do your other friends and family but no more?

2006-09-19 07:29:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said

well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.

But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,

Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?

And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.

But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?

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26 minutes ago
And, yes, her mom likes me, she told me that she is encouraging her daughter to date me, she also said that it was really hard for her daughter to sent that email, but in the mean time, she is really flirty with this other guy.

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3 hours ago
But it's weird, like sometimes she'll seem sad, cuz she wants to be with me, then shell go and be REALLy happy and flirty with this other guy, then shell come up and talk to me, like she misses me, and then shell go flirt with him, I'm just SO CONFUSED, please help.

3 hours ago
but i mean, the way she is around him, is the way she used to be around me, and its weird, cuz we dont talk nearly nearly as much as we used to, and its almost like shes sad, or missin that or sumthin, but then all over this other guy

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21 minutes ago
I know I have asekd this many times, but I havent talked to her about it, and I am not spending every second of the day thinking about it, I am simply asking for advice, and listening to everyone. I truely care for her, and I am just trying to see what my best option is. Those who say, she dont like me becuz Ive asked this many times, well, I havent spoken to her, or anyone for that matter about this for a month, so please just lay off

2006-09-19 07:29:10 · 6 answers · asked by robinson z 1 in Singles & Dating

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yeast in her panties to bake a loaf of bread. What should I do?
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2006-09-19 07:28:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Met a great girl less than 2 months ago. We really care for each other, enjoy spending time together and the sex is great. She has already told me she loves and and has started talking about me breaking my apt. lease or not renewing it so I can go live with her. Her place would not be my ideal choice and her housekeeping skills leave alot to be desired. I feel this conversation is happening way too early in our relationship, she is rushing these ideas and that I cannot say when or if I would be ready to move in with her. Her insecurities kicked in, my comment has made her mad, with her saying I killed her dreams for our future and now our relationship may be different..

I feel I am totally correct in stating that things are moving too fast and that we should just slow down, take it light and take the time to learn more about each other before making big life-changing decisions like this. I think her reaction is irrational.

What do you think??

2006-09-19 07:27:24 · 5 answers · asked by sportygirl 2 in Singles & Dating

I have been living with my cousin for 1 year due that me and my boyfriend has a disagreement when living with his sister so i moved out and his sister put him out so he has been staying with my cousin and her boyfriend. Anyway since we been living together it has been like h@ll there. Every wrong thing you can think of that is what they did. To this day I just can't believe my 1st cousin would do something like that to me. She is a sh@$$y person and her boyfriend is just as messy as she is . He have cheated my man out of money and everything. So we had to move out to get away from this mess. What would you do or say to someone like these type of people?

2006-09-19 07:27:08 · 14 answers · asked by BabyGirl 3 in Family

i want some ffriends but cant get any because no one wouldnt email me at: melikey2009@yahoo.com

2006-09-19 07:26:01 · 7 answers · asked by melikey2009 2 in Friends

My ex went back to his wife "for the kids". They were separated when we got together. But he still calls me all the time and wants to see me. We both agree we have never felt a connection with another person like we do for eachother. (we are not sleeping together). He doesn't want to be with his wife he says, but yet he's with her. He says he is working on leaving her. Well, our song is on the radio literally everytime I turn it on. Is this an omen or a sign that we end up together?

2006-09-19 07:25:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

an adult? Why do they let kids ask questions about sex on here? They kick off adults that even think about it, then they let these "whack" teenie boppers on her asking questions for "mature adults only". Give me a break...could we get introuble for answering kids questions honestly?

2006-09-19 07:25:22 · 9 answers · asked by sasha 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I moved to the United States 6 years ago from England to live with my current husband. But he has anger issues. He has never been physically abusive to me, he just yells and screams a lot, especially when things don’t go his way. When anything bad ever happens, he takes it out on me or my 2 boys (aged 16 and 18). The last 2 times he has gotten mad, the neighbours have called the police. He always tells me he wants divorce when I stick up for my kids when he is yelling at them for something they didn’t do. But then he tells me that he is sorry and he was only joking about the divorce. But the last time he went ballistic, I was in the shower getting ready for work at 5:30am and he started yelling at me through the shower curtain, and I don’t even know what was going on. He through in the divorce word again, so I told him I would give him one. He left for work and the police showed up. I asked them to call him and tell him to please stay at his mother’s house for awhile till I figured things out. I filled a suitcase for him and left it on the back steps. He came and picked it up and left. But then he called me saying he didn’t want to impose on anybody, so he was going to sleep in his car (and that made me feel bad about the whole situation). He also told me that he was sorry and he didn’t really want a divorce. He even told me he knows he needs to get some help for his anger, but I don’t know whether he means it or not. I mean, he can’t even commit to quitting smoking. Now I don’t know what to do. This is my third marriage. My fist husband was an abusive drunk. My second husband was just like the one I got now. And my 16 y/o son is terrified of him because he told us he was gay about a year ago, and my husband is homophobic, so he takes out a lot of anger on him sometimes. When he gets angry, his eyes get glossy and he screams so loud they can hear him down the street. He gets a look on his face like he just wants to kill you. He is a really good guy, but his anger overwhelms everything else about him. I really can’t even tell you whether or not I even love him anymore. Do you think I should just divorce him and move on? And maybe after the divorce, take my kids back to England where we have family, because we have nobody here? Or should I give him another chance, and try to make him get help for his anger, and stick to it? I feel so alone and have no clue what to do!

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Which is more important to you in a relationship? Love...or money....

For me, love wins everytime!!!

2006-09-19 07:22:38 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

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I think my b/f is ready for us to have sex and i'm not sure i want to. I've really got to decide if I'm willing to or not in the next few weeks. I'm not a virgin anymore so why should I worry? Can anyone help me out?

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Hey I am doing this survey thing and I'm jus wondering who guys are more attracted to, blondes or brunettes?

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Why do i have the need to always be with him? i am always sad and irratible when he is not around.I want to think i am in love. but i think its to early.we have only been dating for 7 weeks.I still don't know if he likes me in the same way. I know he cares,but i really don't know how to ask him how he really feels.Maybe i am just being stupid,what do u think? I still have not told him how i feel.I don't even know if i should. I love the way he makes me laugh and the way i feel when he touches me. I believe i could ruin this if i'm not careful.

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Specifically, one's wife with another man.

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my boyfriend and i have decided to get engaged when he can afford to get a ring. i feel like he is now more than a boyfriend, but not yet my fiance. is there a name somewhere in between those two labels that i can call him now?

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wearing panties turns me on but im not gay i just wnated to know if i should tell my gf and i was wondering if she might like it? can u help?

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Okay so my best friend that has been my best friend for 4 years has decided to only talk to me when SHE wants.
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They ignore me at P.E.
What should I do?

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2006-09-19 07:16:55 · 14 answers · asked by rick_james_bytch03 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Do you hate them just because they were with them before? And does thinking about them just make you mad and disgusted.

2006-09-19 07:16:35 · 12 answers · asked by Go Bears Go 2 in Singles & Dating

When do you get to the point when, that your dreams aren't going to come true...is it wrong to hope that you will actually get him one day..that he likes you, but he doesn't know if you feel the same way..but you once felt that way...and he knew..but at that point in time he was seeing someone...and the only thing you seem to hold on to is the fact that he noticed that you weren't around like before..I want to feel safe in the arms of a guy who cares for me. Also how do you let go of the past..how do you stop thinking that everyone is going to hurt you again...How do you stop worrying that you won't be dropped as a friend..out of the blue?

2006-09-19 07:15:45 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating