what s the best way to ask a girl out?

Question

Asking out a girl is a bit of a risky business, specially when she works with you.. and she just broke up with her boyfriend only a week ago (nothing to do with me..unfortunately :). is it best to wait for sometime..? any best practices known? please help

Answer 1

Hon, if she just broke up with her boyfriend a week ago, I think that she might need a little more time to be on her own and process things before she jumps back into the dating pool! :) I would definitely wait things out right now...if you work with her, you'll have a chance to talk to her, observe her behavior, and figure out when she seems to be over the breakup. I think it's WAY too soon to pursue something like this only a week after she broke up with somebody else.

I also agree with what another poster said...it's always a bit risky to date someone you work with. Have you thought about what might happen if the two of you were to date, then break up? Would that make things really awkward for the two of you and/or your co-workers? Don't pursue this relationship without considering those kinds of issues.

As for the question of how to ask a girl out, my best advice to you is to keep it casual and do it in person. Just walk up to her at an opportune moment (preferably AFTER work!) and ask her if she'd like to go see a movie or grab coffee sometime. I can guarantee you that no girl would be offended by an invitation like that..even if I wasn't interested in a guy at all, I'd be flattered that he had the guts to come up to me and express his interest in person. (With all the technology these days, it's really easy for people to ask others out via IM, e-mail, cell phones, or text messages...but I'm always WAY more impressed when someone asks me out face-to-face!)

Best of luck, my friend! I'll be thinking of you! :)

Answer 2

I would think that it is a bit too soon to ask her out. Why not strike up a warm cordial association with her first.
Generally people are more than willing to talk if you open up the conversation. Start a conversation with her and focus on something she has done or what she's done in her work, whatever, basically let her talk once you break the ice. Be polite and be honest and eventually she may confide in you. Understanding how she feels about her break-up and be supportive and she'll be better able to relate to you.
Many people have concerns that need to be shared with a sympathetic ear, but this will only happen when she senses that you understand how she feels. Timing is important also and it may be wise to wait until you've had the chance to get to know her more on a personal friendship level.
Also people seem to chose friends on the basis of how comfortable they make you feel. I for one think it's immoral to be around people for several hours and not show some kind of personal appreciation. Life becomes more meaningful and enjoyable. SO compliment her on something and this will at least let her know that you have a healthy attitude towards life. People who enjoy good emotional and mental well-being find it easy to find some good qualities in their associates and honestly compliment them on it. Your co-workers will identify with you a lot more just simply expressing gratitude and appreciation.
So make friends with her and go from there. Good luck.

Answer 3

First of all, you should ask yourself what your intentions are regarding her. Do you see the two of you potentially becoming something serious? If so, watch out for the rebound effect! A girl may not intend on rebounding with you, but it happens. A person needs some space to re-cooperate and recover after a breakup. If you really like her, be her friend first. You can get to know a lot about a person by "being there" for them. And as a woman, I know I would love it if someone showed an interest in me that I felt had more to do with them caring about me rather than their lust for me.
But... sometimes you just can't help it that you are "in lust" with a person. If you aren't worried about where it goes and you are just looking to have a good time, flirt with her and see if she flirts back. If she does flirt back, then ask her out!

Answer 4

It is best both to wait for some time, but also start your action immediately too.

You should not ask her out or imply that you want anything more than a friendship. (except maybe you can say things abt her ex like "if you were my girlfriend I would never have hurt you like that" OR even better say "if i was him i would never have.........")

But the thing you must do is be there for her 100% during this hard time, she will need a girlfriend to talk to, someone who understands and sympathises with her, somone to shower her with attention and make her feel good about herself, but if you can do all this as a man-friend, she will soon realise that she has fallen for you.

Good luck!!

Answer 5

Well, you can ask her out now but surely you'll just be sloppy seconds on her rebound. Women, right after they break up with a boyfriend are a lot like Dennis Rodman: a high amount of rebounding.

Cool off and have lunch with her from time to time, but let her heal. Women don't just go for the next one. They do, but, the very next one's always just one for the fun of it until she's gotten her hormones regulated again.

Answer 6

Take a look at this:
How To Ask Out The Girl Your Work With Out For A Date:
http://www.sidwiki.com/index.php?title=How_To_Ask_Out_The_Girl_Your_Work_With_Out_For_A_Date

Answer 7

I like a telephone call that says, "There's a jazz concert at the XYZ Arena next Saturday night, would you like to go with me?" He's told me what, where, and when in one sentence. If I don't like jazz, I can tell him that. If I'm busy Saturday night, I can tell him that. If I'm not ready to start dating someone new, I can just say that. I have enough time to think about whether I want to accept or not, and what to say either way.

Answer 8

Don't do it! Dating Rule #001 Never dip your pen in company ink! Its just a can of worms waiting to be opened. What if she says no? What if she says yeas and the date doesn't go as well as planned? What if y'all hook up and y'all split up and still work at the same job can you say a awkward? Let it die or let her come to you that way the ball is in your court!

Answer 9

take it from a girls point of veiw. the best way would be 2 find out her intrests...let her know that u wanna get 2 no her before u ask her out. then when the time is right....tell her how u feel and ask her if she feels the same.

Answer 10

Bring her a Happy Meal..Take out the Toy and add a small flower and note inside.

Make sure its nuggets and sliceds apples though..Women like to think men notice that they try hard to take care of themselves.