Do you think it is wrong to want to watch/participate with one's spouse being intimate with another person?

Question

Specifically, one's wife with another man.

So many good and/or thought provoking answers....(and a couple of ridiculous ones).

Thanks guys! It gives me some other viewpoints to consider regarding this.

I originally wanted to post this under "Weddings" section.

Answer 1

a lot of people want to , but very few can handle it. It opens the door to too many things that will ruin a marriage, like doubt and mistrust.

Answer 2

No I do not.If you don't be a little open in your relationship your mate will CHEAT. i am a woman who firmly believes in a good 3som every once in a while. We have to be far away from where we live and he has to never see this person again.Like when we go on vaca. we meet all kinds of people have all sorts of fun. But than we come home,we realize we love each other and are very hppy with each other only becaue i understand he is a man and most men need more than 1 women forever.As long as he understands i am his women there are no others.

Answer 3

Ahemm...my husband wants me too w/one of our friends. I think about it but wont. Its wrong to begin w/in Gods eyes and the consequences once its done is another. I dont think he fully understands that once I do this he is always gonna wonder if I want this person again. I like this person alot, as a friend, and I want it to stay that way. My inner self will not allow this. Its against my morals and I will not go against my morals for anyone. The thought is exciting but its only exciting in the thought not for reality. This must be a guy thing since I would not let another women have a piece of my man whether I was there or not.

Answer 4

it's RIGHT if it's right for you two as a couple. It must be agreed on before hand. If it's not what you want it's WRONG pretty simple it's a couples personal prefrence there is NO RIGHT OR WRONG when it comes to what you enjoy sexually "unless it invloved children that's the only WRONG". What adults do behind bedroom doors is their own buisness not for any one else to judge whats good or bad.

Answer 5

Nah. It's just voyeurism and a bit of swing in ya. Nothing too wrong with that as long as everyone in the party is comfortable and only does what they want. If no one is being forced, have fun!

Answer 6

Well in this case depends what you mean by wrong and just what your reasons are for doing it. I "know" several couples that do just that but for different reasons. Its a fantasy for many men, few to the point they want to actually do it, or that their wife wants to actually go thru with it, BUT there are ways to work that out.

Answer 7

Right and Wrong in the bedroom is just about semantical but it's bad for a marriage. Marriage is by definition monogamous, that's the precept that makes it work and people in them are seeking a monogamous life. You can't do that with someone else in your bed. This is a symptom that something is wrong in your marriage. Doing this is no less destructive than going out and sleeping with other women and telling your wife about it.

Answer 8

You must not be the jealous type. I say what every rocks your boat. I personally would not want to watch or participate with someone else with my spouse. I guess I'm selfish that way. I want him all to myself.

Answer 9

Yes, it is wrong I can't understand someone that would want to watch your spouse with another, especially having sex If you loved your wife which evidently you don't, find someone just for you and you alone.

Answer 10

i personally think its wrong i think what a couple does in bed should stay between them, its something special, however i know some people are into that so i guess if all of the parties are ok with it more power to you.