This is REALLY long, but I would really really, greatly appreciate an honest answer, thanks!?

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This girl and me were really close, we would stay up till 12 in the mornin talkin sometime, now that mite not be alot, but it is for her, she is homeschooled, I go to public school. Well I asked her to the movies, and she said Idk maybe , and REALLy backed off, she seemed nervous around me, I thought she just didnt wanna hurt my feelings, but she told her friends, she just wants to see if I can stick with her. Well we got further and further apart, until I couldnt stand it anymore and I emailed her, spilled my guts, and asked her to be brutally honest on how she fealt about me, heres what she said

well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later

Now, When I read that two things come to mind. One, that she is just trying to be nice. But on the other hand, she is just scared, because she has never had a bf b4, and weve been friends since age 7.

But now she seems more comfortable around me, like now she talks more, and seems more comfortable, but then she'll seem like she wants me, I can tell by the way she looks, and the way she acts, she just seems really sad, and down,

Oh yeah, and she told her mom , that she is just really really scared, and that she does like me, but she told her friends she just dont want to hurt my feelings, now her and her mom are really close, but so are her and her friends, Do you think she likes me, or is just letting me down easy?

And I am respecting her wishes, I emailed her and told her that I respect her decision, and we havent talked about it since.

But I really really do care for her, I wake up and she's the first thing I think about, I go to sleep and Fall asleep thinking about her. I mean I know I'm only 15, but I really do love her, and would do anything in this world to be with her. I've tried moving on, I've been trying to do that, but I just can't. Even though I am am guy, yes I have cried numerous time for her, and about her. I mean, I'm not ugly, I'm fit, and I'm not a big geek or anything, so what gives? I really do love her, what should I do?

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26 minutes ago
And, yes, her mom likes me, she told me that she is encouraging her daughter to date me, she also said that it was really hard for her daughter to sent that email, but in the mean time, she is really flirty with this other guy.

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3 hours ago
But it's weird, like sometimes she'll seem sad, cuz she wants to be with me, then shell go and be REALLy happy and flirty with this other guy, then shell come up and talk to me, like she misses me, and then shell go flirt with him, I'm just SO CONFUSED, please help.

3 hours ago
but i mean, the way she is around him, is the way she used to be around me, and its weird, cuz we dont talk nearly nearly as much as we used to, and its almost like shes sad, or missin that or sumthin, but then all over this other guy

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21 minutes ago
I know I have asekd this many times, but I havent talked to her about it, and I am not spending every second of the day thinking about it, I am simply asking for advice, and listening to everyone. I truely care for her, and I am just trying to see what my best option is. Those who say, she dont like me becuz Ive asked this many times, well, I havent spoken to her, or anyone for that matter about this for a month, so please just lay off

but she has a guy friend, theyve been friends since birth, and they are litteraly best friends, they tell each other everything, he's like a brother to her, but the way she acts wit him, is kinda the way she acts wit this guy she flirts wit, and then she also told her friends, that she wants to make sure i can stick wit her, cuz ive' kinda had many girls, and back when we wuz just friends, b4 i liked her , id ask her 4 advice

Answer 1

I know the solution to your problem! first of all I have to admit that you are such a sweet guy!!!!!!!!!!! wow and u are only 15! ok this is what you should do! Ok so next time you see her, tell her that you really thought things true and that all you want to be is her friend. I mean this is your only option! tell her that you want to be her friend and I know that she is going to like you better and hang out with you more, please listen to me this is the best thing in the world. if you tell her that you like her then it will probably scre her and she won;t know how to act around you, but if you tell her that you just want to be her friend then she will know how to act and you guys will have a lot of fun ! now this is the best part: as you guys are becoming more and more friends and hangiing out and doing :"friend things" well one day she will be the one to tell you that she wants to be more than friends! I know this will become true eventually! I wish you the beat of luck! In a week or so tell me how it went! ( the hard part will be you telling her that you ahev thought thinggs through and that you only want to be "freinds" the rest is easy as each day passes) TRUST ME!

Answer 2

Sounds like a normal girl to me. I raised two of them, so beleive me I know. You have two opitions either find yourself another girl who has her head together and get on with your life, or you can wait around and see what happens. Liking a person as a friend is one thing, being boyfriend and girlfriend and dating is something else. If she does not feel about you the same way that you feel about her there is nothing you can do to change that. I think you should move on, don't just forget her and not have anything to do with her, I'm not saying that, just find someone else to date and give her time. Some girls mature faster than others, you can't change that, and she may never feel for you the way you feel for her. If you just look around you just might find someone who you like even more than you like her, if you do, you will soon forget about her. If the two of you were meant to be together, that time will come but you can't hurry it along.

Answer 3

I didn't read it all yet, but you sound like a guy who was dating my kid sister one time. You're taking this too seriously, thinking too hard, and need to step back and enjoy life a bit more, don't worry so much about her.

She told you she's not interested right now, so you should just leave it at that. Her mother could be like mine was, always nice to the guys and trying to set us up with someone who mentioned liking us, not knowing we are not interested. I know you're anxious but you need to relax and just try not to think about this anymore. Have fun. Let things be the way they really are.

Also, could be she doesn't know what she wants, and she gets confused about you when she's feeling overwhelmed with guilt for your heavy feelings. So no matter what, just following her cue, listening to her, and showing her some respect if you really care, is the best route.

Answer 4

When I started dating, I was scared, too. My mother made it a rule that before I was 16, I could only double-date (go out with a guy AND another couple). That made all the difference in the world to me! There were two other people with us, there were no awkward pauses, no "what do I say next?" fears...it was much easier, more relaxed. It was like PRACTICE dating. Maybe you could try that, if she really is nervous or scared.

Answer 5

I say this to you from a long list of having my heart broken by a female. MOVE ON! She doesn't want anything more than to be friends with you. Do yourself a favor and get over her as quickly as possible. Best of luck to you. Life will always have stumbling blocks for you to go around, the sooner you can learn from an experience the better you will be for future disappointments, and the ability to move on.

Answer 6

get a life dude