Family & Relationships - 14 September 2006

HE MAKES ALMOST 5g"S A MONTH AND HE HAS 5 KIDS THAT HE PAYS CHILD SUPPORT. I SAW WHAT COMES OUT. AND ITS A **** LOAD BUT I CHECK HIS ACCT AND ITS NEGATIVE AFTER I PULL IT OUT FOR THE BILLS. I ASKED TO VIEW HIS ACCT BUT HE'S STALLING ON GIVING IT TO ME BY SAYING HE DOESN'T KNOW HIS ONLINE PIN. I SAID, CALL THE BANK AND HE SAYS, HE CAN'T GET A OUTSIDE LINE OUT EACH TIME I ASK HIM. I JUST WANT TO SAFEGUARD MYSELF FROM BEING IN SHOCK EACH TIME I GO TO THE ATM TO PAY DA RENT AND ITS NOT ENUFF 4 DA RENT OR NEGATIVE. I ASKED HIM IF WE CAN'T KEEP UP WITH THE BILLS HERE HOW CAN WE PURCHASE OUR WEDDING RINGS, HE SAID WE'LL GO TO THE JP AND WORRY ABOUT IT THEN. SO I'M ASKING FOR ADVICE SHOULD I MARRY HIM STILL OR MOVE ON. I'M CURRENTLY A STUDENT IN SCHOOL AND HE KNEW I DIDN'T HAVE A JOB HOWEVER, I RECEIVE A LITTLE INCOME BUT ITS NOT ENUFF TO PAY THE BILLS WHEN THE ACCT IS ALWAYS SHORT. WHAT WOULD YOU DO. I LOVE HIM AND I STRESS EACH 1ST AND 15TH THINKING DAMN WE GONNA BE PUT OUT AND HE'S AWAY.

2006-09-14 15:47:23 · 15 answers · asked by KeKe M 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Anyone have a simliar situation.what came of it? Honestly i find my wife more a friend than a lover (as she has no sexual spark). This other one she's a spark and her husband is the same all the time (when they do it, which is rarely), and i feel we're both wanting more sexually for our lives and its not coming from home. She's catholic and has that guilt that goes along with it. But she still gives off that vibe. I'm so tempted. What would yo do?

2006-09-14 15:46:54 · 19 answers · asked by TipsyMcStagger 1 in Marriage & Divorce

why am i bit shy around girls? i mean im not scared..but too shy to talk....how can i get rid of this embarrassing thing?....any tips on how to be more confident in front of girls?....ok its not easy as just go and talk to them....is there any cure...do u think its an anxiety problem? if so what can i do....any meds? any help would be good!

2006-09-14 15:46:39 · 12 answers · asked by PIMP_DADDY 2 in Singles & Dating

For my quinceanera last year my parents got me an ipod mini...i've had it for a year and i really want the new ipod nano...i never really liked it b/c of the colors but now they have it in blue..i really want the new one and i wanted to sell my mini and use the money to buy the nano...my parents don't want me to sell it b/c it was for my quinceanera...but i don't see it that way...they gave me a great party for my 15, diamond rings,earring and necklaces and a custom porceline doll and my ipod...i think that the jewelry, the party and the doll is more special than an ipod...i still have things to remember it by and they're trying to lay a guilt trip on me so i won't sell it..they say i may regret it and i don't know b/c it is on my quinceanera DVD...should i keep my mini or sell it for a nano?

2006-09-14 15:46:04 · 8 answers · asked by M E 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

We use to fight like crazy but I imagine most newly wed couples do. Our marriage use to be so hot and cold. We would have frequent fights, sometimes really big fights but when we didn't fight were so unbelieveably amazing together. It made it all well worth the bad times. It's been a little more than a year and a half of being married now and the arguments are really starting to die down. We're learning from eachother and have a better idea of where eachother is coming from. He left for Iraq Saturday and I came across his yahoo answers account yesterday. I thought it was the coolest with me being so disconnected from his life while he's in Iraq. There were some questions that made me laugh like I do when I'm with him. It made me feel closer to him.

Then yesterday I came across alot of mean questions about me on his yahoo answers account. Some of his stories on here about me are so distorted that I know he did it intentionally. The question that hurt the most was about a miscarriage we had. He said that I was more light about the baby part of the situation which is true. We were less than 2 months pregnant when it happened and I didn't feel a connection. It never felt like a real baby inside of me and it's just easier for me to not think about the person he or she would have grown up to become.

Then he quotes me to have said "get over it and stop being a baby" about the miscarriage and asks everyone if he's being a baby or if his wife is just "crazy". That's a horrible thing to say and I never said it. I do admit I've said some pretty mean things to him in the past like I want a divorce when I'm emotional (not just when I'm pregnant) but he's done similar things. We both have things to work on.

But why would he create such a big lie about something so long ago?

and then he chose a girl that pretty much said he's too good for me to be his best answer.

You can check his questions to see his side of the story but if you care, this is what really happened:

I've never said "you're a big baby and get over it". I'm pretty hurt he said that. During the first miscarriage my doctor was concerned that I had a tubal pregnancy or something else severely wrong with me. They said that I might have to have surgery. Ben looked really sad but he was only sad about the baby. I tried so hard to cheer him up while I was also sad about the baby and worried about my health. At that time we knew that the baby wasn't going to happen but did not yet know about my well being. He was so stuck on the baby and never once showed his concern for me. Instead he got angry at me for not being sad enough about the baby. Why would you try to make someone that is already so sad in that type of situation even more sad? I was going through a hard enough time as it was. Husbands are suppose to be supportive and make situations like that easier to deal with but he made it worse. When I brought up his lack of concern for me it would turn into a big argument because he was mad at me for not being sad enough about the baby. I was in tears but he didn't care because I "didn't care enough about the baby". I just have a different view on it. I try not to think of the person he/she would have grown up to become because it makes me sad. I figure god has a plan and I'd rather think of it as a really bad period because that's what I would have thought if I hadn't had a positive pregnancy test. You (everyone who wrote mean comments about me or thinks so little of me) can't tell me the baby has or hasn't a soul. That depends on your beliefs and you can't push your beliefs on people who don't want them. I don't know what I believe in. I go back and forth but it's just easier for me to think miscarriages are for a reason, that we would have otherwise had a very misfortunate baby and if I'm wrong I don't have to be sad while I'm on earth and I'll see him in heaven.

I'm looking for constructive feedback so don't trash on my hubby! There are so many good things about him you don't know about.

2006-09-14 15:45:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

your face is beaming
you say its cause youre dreaming
of how good its going to be
you say youve been around
and now youve finally found
everything you wanted and needed in me
i dont have the heart to hurt you
its the last thing i want to do
but i dont have the heart to love you
not the way you want me to
inside im dying to see you crying
how can i make you understand
i care about you, so much about you, baby
im trying to say this as gently as i can
cause i dont have the heart to hurt you
its the last thing i want to do
but i dont have the heart to love you
not the way you want me to
youre so trusting and open
hoping that love will start
but i dont have the heart
oh no, i dont have the heart

2006-09-14 15:44:41 · 15 answers · asked by 99CLOUD99 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-14 15:44:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Okay my fiance's best friend is being a total asshole and I don't know how to help my fiance get over it. I really want to talk to his friend and give him a piece of my mind cuz I think that he's treating him like ****. For one my fiance called him on his birthday but he can't even remember his and then he makes my fiance look like an *** because he said something while they were jokin around. I need help what should I do? Should I do anything or just let it pass without my interferance?

2006-09-14 15:43:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My mom says I can only start dating when I'm 23. She'll have no legal countrol over me, but..........well you know. I was thinking about going out on my freshman year of college. Not when I'm 23.

2006-09-14 15:43:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

wow this is confusing but i could use the help!!

ok so i told my friend that i think that her best friend likes this guy named Steve. So then the friend i told, told her best friend that i thought she liked Steve and she laughed and said no i dont. during class today her and the guy who i think shes all over would like stare at me while talking today(i.e the day after she heard what i said). If youre a guy would have thought that i liked you just because i thought some chick was all over you and flirting?!!?! And if youre a girl i want your opinion too...would the guy think its weird that someone hes not dating thinks another girl is always all over him?? hmm need your opinion plz

2006-09-14 15:42:59 · 22 answers · asked by amber k 2 in Singles & Dating

I see a lot of personal ads written by men who require "no drama". What do they mean by that? I'm from another country so I'm a bit baffled. The frequency of those who specify that makes me think that all the women they meet have issues or something but everyone's got issues! What kind of drama are they talking about?

2006-09-14 15:42:39 · 8 answers · asked by Trillian 6 in Singles & Dating

without medication...

2006-09-14 15:41:39 · 14 answers · asked by sweet_n_krazykaz 2 in Marriage & Divorce

All I am looking for is this... A girl who is funny, quirky, highly intelligent, ambitious, frivolous, classy, snobby, a little bitchy, assertive, very very good looking with amazing eyes, affectionate, talkative, caring, who'll like my friends, who'll let me do my own thing, who's good in bed, who's a little crazy but not in a Fatal Attraction bunny boiler type way, well read, opiniated, oh, and she must have an excellent career, preferably a professional like myself, such as a lawyer, a doctor or a dentist. Also, slender ankles, now I don't have a foot fetish or anything, but I HATE cankles! So nice legs are a must. Now is that REALLY too much to ask?

2006-09-14 15:41:19 · 19 answers · asked by irishcharmer84 2 in Singles & Dating

If they were not safely hidden behind a screen would they be such perverts.

2006-09-14 15:39:58 · 31 answers · asked by goldieluxxx 4 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-14 15:39:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

ok there's this guy that I like and he likes me... but he doesnt admitt it...we flirt ALL the time..seariously, ALL the time, we call each other "honey" and "baby"..is kinda funny...we havent make out or something no no no ughh..ev'body says that we're acting like we are going out..some other ppl think that we're going out already.He is my bestfriend's boyfriend bestf.....can that put pressure on him??...cuz my group is 2 girls(me and my bff) and 2 boys(my bffs boyf and the boy i like)...in a way is kind of awkward, we are like the popular click in my school...I dont know wat to do..(????)...HELP

2006-09-14 15:39:21 · 4 answers · asked by diego652003 1 in Singles & Dating

Tired of dead relaionships where it appears that you are the only one trying to keep it alive...you are reaching your limit and you don't like it! Anyone understand?

2006-09-14 15:38:51 · 12 answers · asked by Chilly Willy 2 in Marriage & Divorce

dont get me wrong i love my boyfriend to death and i would do anything for him and i get on all of his family except his sister, she has always acted very cold towards me and everything i say seems to be wrong, she has always been the centre of attention although she is the oldest child, i dont mind the fact that she is the only girl in the family and spoilt, its the fact that she doesent want me to be listened to or she makes me out to be a monster all the time when i always try to be as nice as i can towards her but it just seems as tho i cant do a thing right. what do i do to resolve this, she is 29 and i am 23 and trying to behave like the mature person i am meant to be

2006-09-14 15:38:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

ok well my gfs friend has been hitting on me and stuff whenever my gf leaves the room. Today at my gfs house her friend is staying the night and when my gf went to the bathroom she took her top off and grabed my hand and put it on her bare boob. I was shocked and yes i didnt move it rigght away till i heard my gf walking back to the room. When my gf got back we acted like nothing happened. What should i do?

2006-09-14 15:38:38 · 30 answers · asked by slaphappy 3 in Singles & Dating

If yes how does he/she make you feel? And why do you like them? I'm just curious to see if you guys are like me lol

2006-09-14 15:38:32 · 9 answers · asked by ♥MG789♥ 3 in Singles & Dating

why do they teach us not to lie. but they insist feeding us tales about Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny , Tooth Ferry?

2006-09-14 15:38:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2006-09-14 15:37:33 · 23 answers · asked by nextelfan25 4 in Marriage & Divorce

How do I meet new people and maybe a mate. I am tired of being alone, how do I go about finding someone. I am terribly shy. Each time I meet someone new I always feel they are settling for me. I want to change this. I am not huge but like a size 16 and I know size -0- is in. Help raise my self-steem so I can feel confidnet to meet someone. Suggestions?

2006-09-14 15:37:16 · 28 answers · asked by Steffy 6 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-14 15:36:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

how do we get along

2006-09-14 15:35:20 · 1 answers · asked by abi_a97 1 in Friends

ive been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now and it seems like everything that happens is my fault...i mean dont get me wrong some days we dont fight been then other days its like living with the devil...help!!

2006-09-14 15:35:14 · 8 answers · asked by chew 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

and he told me he has a crush on me, but the thing is he recently got out of a 10 month relationship..so i know he isnt going to want a girlfriend right away. but him and his ex girlfriend act like they are going out still, and i know for a fact they still like each other. him and i are really good friends and i like him alot what should i do?

2006-09-14 15:34:21 · 5 answers · asked by OGW 1 in Singles & Dating

i have size 32 full c, an butt to match, and i am 5'2 and i want 2 know if it is wrong of me to were low plunging shirts that show them off or am i really a whore like everyone says.

2006-09-14 15:33:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm a virgin and i'm gonna have sex for the first time, any advise?

2006-09-14 15:33:22 · 6 answers · asked by Crzy_dude 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-14 15:33:20 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating