dont get me wrong i love my boyfriend to death and i would do anything for him and i get on all of his family except his sister, she has always acted very cold towards me and everything i say seems to be wrong, she has always been the centre of attention although she is the oldest child, i dont mind the fact that she is the only girl in the family and spoilt, its the fact that she doesent want me to be listened to or she makes me out to be a monster all the time when i always try to be as nice as i can towards her but it just seems as tho i cant do a thing right. what do i do to resolve this, she is 29 and i am 23 and trying to behave like the mature person i am meant to be
2006-09-14 15:38:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just tell her one day look i am with ur brother and you might not like it but its his decision not yours and no matter what you say or do to me i am still gonna love him the same. Or you can tell ur man to tell her to back off and that he loves you no matter what and that you are the one he wants to spend everyday with and not her and that she is not first in his life you are. She probably wont like this but at least youll feel better knowing that you said what you had to . and after that yo can go back to being nice to her but youll feel alot better being nice to her kinow that you had ur moment of rudeness and better yet if you want to say all of this in front of ur man to her but let him know ur gonna so he doesnt interfear. thatll really piss her off. she prbably wont be nice to you still but she will try to avoid you as much as possible and know that ur not afraid to stand ur ground. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-09-14 15:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend for 2 years whose older sister didn't like me. She had even convinced him to break up with me once, she was so bad. She told his family horrible things about me, acted nice towards me, but when I wasn't around, would completely dog me.
From my personal experience, all I can say is to stand your ground, try to respect her for who she is even if she can't do the same, and know that no matter what happens, that she's the one who has things twisted. Because as long as you keep your composure, no matter how things end up, you'll have a clear mind and you will know that you did nothing wrong to provoke her. Try speaking with your boyfriend about how you don't like the way she treats you if you haven't already. The best you can do is be the better person and never stoop to her level because that is all they really want.
Good luck!
2006-09-14 15:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by bohemian_crush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smile and laugh at her all the time this will confuse her you have to learn to redirect her anger where it belongs back to her and ask yourself and your boyfriend Were they intimate? Ask her if they were and ask her if that is what her problem is. I think her tune will change after that. It may cause a melt down for you as well but she will always cause problems for you and if your boyfriend has not already addresse this with her then he is also part of the problem and doesn't care about you as much as he does about his sister. You will always take second place and you will come to resent this and this relationship is not worth all that.
2006-09-14 22:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by lydia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, you just have to call people on things. I know you're trying to take the high road, but people like her sometimes don't recognize that. They mistake your kindness for weakness and will continue to walk on you. You may have to 'check' her once or twice to let her know you won't put up with it. Can your boyfriend help you out with this? I know that may be hard if he's been raised with the idea that she's spoiled and that's the way it is.
2006-09-14 15:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got been in an identical subject to yours till now(the two aspects of it), i desire i may be of suggestions. in the beginning, why she resents/is merciless to you: She is merely protecting of her brother. Over protecting, sure, yet fairly considering they are twins they have continued each and everything mutually. She would be jealous that extra of his interest is going to you, she's no longer in love with him or something lol. Secondly. What you're able to do: you will desire to truly kill her with kindness in any respect cases. purchase her small presents each and every now and then... and intensely mostly locate something to compliment her on! women human beings love getting compliments, it boosts their shallowness... that are why shes so mean to you. you additionally could have her caught contained in the act of being offensive; attempt to have your boyfriend around you 2 extra generally- or have HIM refer to her approximately how she does not very own him, ect. desire this enables, sturdy success :)
2016-09-30 23:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety the best way is to kill her with kindness. Find out what she likes, and cater to her she will wonder why but it will work. Try calling her and making her feel important by asking her for advise. Invite her to lunch and let her know how you feel and ask her your questions. Kill her with kindess and if that does work F*** her life is too short just ignore her than.
2006-09-14 15:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by wonder woo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that his family praises you when your not around and she may be jealous. Just be polit as you can, be the bigger person and don't let it get to you. It'll show everyone who's more mature.
2006-09-14 17:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by dakota_baby_469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes sister can be envious of their brothers girlfriend address it with your boyfriend about see what he says. don't take it personal it not worth it because at the end of the day there still family and blood should be thicker than water
2006-09-14 15:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by queen2be 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, i have a problem similar to this one. But either sit down and talk it out with her or just ignore the chick. I think thats being mature you know.
2006-09-14 15:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh c'mon. if u cant get along with her just avoid her.
u're love HIM doesnt mean u have to love all his family members!
i'm in a much worst situation than u girl. my boyfren's mum hates me! so i didnt even bother to get along with her. whenever i went to his home, i will make small talks but that's about it. i wont try hard to make her like me at all. cause i love her son not her.
haha. good luck.
2006-09-14 15:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by keira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋