Family & Relationships - 12 September 2006

i am married with three children, my first born is turning 22 on the 15 december this year and the last child but one is 12 years old. my problem now is that i have another child outside marriage who is three years old after my husband deserted the family for more than six years since 1997. Am i in trouble of having the child outside the recommended marriage since the husband was away without my knowledge? I reported the matter to the magistrate court and he was charged with deserting family charge of which he has been paying maintenance for his three children and he stopped it after i gave birth to the fourth child who is not his in 2003. Now the guy wants to come back to the family according to his statement, and he's now asking for reconcilliation from me but he's saying he want to sue the new child's father for compensation saying the guy has destroyed his marriage. My question is, does it worth it for my husband to sue the guy though he was the one who ran away from his family?

2006-09-12 22:51:16 · 17 answers · asked by ogolotse desiree d 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have lost my wife of 24 years because I now know I failed to meet her needs. I know now how crazy it has been to raise our six kids and me. She needed to bail and now I can understand why only after going throuh it for the past three months alone. I still love her but cann't reach her emotionally. I know that if I can show her I understand, she may fall in love with me again. I want to learn what I can do. I want to be her man again. I have been the provider and protecter but not the man she needs emotionally. I am 44 and want to start over with her. What can I do that would start this process? I am serious and would like to change because she is worth it. As a man I was blind to her needs, what she really needs, not what the world tells a man but what a woman wants to tell a man. Help! I am ready to do for her. I do not want to just change and let my change be benefited by another, I want her (my wife) to have all I can give. Thanks ahead of time for being helpfully candid.

2006-09-12 22:49:48 · 16 answers · asked by james.ampmerch 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Have you ever worked in one or attended one if yes what was your experiences. Do you think they should be banned?

2006-09-12 22:49:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i am not young, so this isnt a 13 yr old middle school question. im talkin if a 19 yr old chick is dating outside her race and her parents find that inappropriate/unacceptable, should she stop dating that person? what if that chick was my ex gf and she just got up and left me for that reason and 3 yrs later she is engaged w/ a future but is having second thoughts b/c she let her parents make the choice for her when she was younger, does she have a legit reason to come back to me?

2006-09-12 22:49:07 · 2 answers · asked by wizzpack 2 in Singles & Dating

How much or what should be kept a secret? What if you've been hiding something you probably should have shared, but are too afraid to tell?

2006-09-12 22:48:23 · 4 answers · asked by melissa 2 in Marriage & Divorce

what could possibly be the repurcussions of being involved with your boss...

2006-09-12 22:48:07 · 11 answers · asked by ashlee-fia 2 in Singles & Dating

where I am sometimes, bent's forward, (only for me) so I can see her boobs, what does that mean? She want's to have sex or friendship or?????

2006-09-12 22:47:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

If I am in love with her and my wife says its OK cos my wife doesnt make love to me anymore,

2006-09-12 22:46:09 · 25 answers · asked by Shironeko 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Can you see your inner beauty? Can you accept and love yourself as you love others?

2006-09-12 22:43:10 · 14 answers · asked by awendragoness 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I dont like to play games and it irratates me, whats the best way to deal with it?
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2006-09-12 22:42:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2006-09-12 22:41:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

tell me ur views

2006-09-12 22:41:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

2006-09-12 22:40:40 · 15 answers · asked by Roc348 2 in Friends

I am known to this girl who is married to some guy and i like her very much , she knows that i do have some feelings for her but my problem is that i cannot propose since she is married and considers me a good friend , I am totally head over heels in luv with her , Should i tell her or not ? i cannot loose her ? Can i ask her out

2006-09-12 22:39:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-09-12 22:39:46 · 13 answers · asked by Narendra 1 in Friends

I can name a few : A cab in England...An elevator in Florida...A graveyard in Vermont and a Bus in England as well.

2006-09-12 22:38:46 · 12 answers · asked by dharmabear 3 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-12 22:31:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

But she wears dress before her parents came home. What should i do?

2006-09-12 22:30:26 · 21 answers · asked by Cupid 2 in Singles & Dating

can a women be happy with her husband who do not like spending money on her, who thinks 100 times before spending each penny?

2006-09-12 22:29:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my hubby has quite big willy and it is very hard when we start and feels great, but a few seconds (or smtimes minutes) before orgazm it loses its hardness and i don't feel anything down there at all. i don't remember how it had been with other men any more so is it usual or smth is wrong with him?

2006-09-12 22:29:23 · 20 answers · asked by jacky 6 in Family

But she wears dress before her parents came home. What should i do?

2006-09-12 22:28:42 · 21 answers · asked by Cupid 2 in Singles & Dating

my friend just split with her husband they have been married for 7 years they have 5 kids together she just walked out she had enough & 3 weeks later she met this guy & has moved in with him . her ex is heart broken & it's akward all around as my husband is best friends with hers & i'm great friends with her i had all the respect for her in the world there was nothing i would'nt do for my friend but do'nt you think she's pushing the cruelty envelope?our kids have all know each other forever. my hubby & i have had great debate in this household now she's pregnant & going to get married to this guy she's 26 & her new guy is 44 her hubby is heartbroken & left with the kids so what do u guys think ?

2006-09-12 22:28:32 · 6 answers · asked by leebeesmum_77 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-09-12 22:28:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

right! my partner is babysitting his kids on fri night! and he was going to take them away for the night but his ex has said no!! even though she needs him to sit but she wants him to sleep over at the house! he said he will take the kids away anyway and he will organise the b and b bt he let me ring them yesterday but wont today? do you think he is going to say going but not? just for peaceful life and stay over?

2006-09-12 22:26:06 · 9 answers · asked by purdy 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

ok, let me explain, i know a few girls that i can have decent conversations and all, but i dont know what to do after that
or if they even like me that much?

help girls!!!!!

2006-09-12 22:25:25 · 6 answers · asked by tim s 3 in Marriage & Divorce

have you ever .what was your state of mind at that time

2006-09-12 22:25:19 · 18 answers · asked by sandy 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-12 22:21:59 · 28 answers · asked by Roc348 2 in Singles & Dating

what is booty call?
and what is BC?

2006-09-12 22:21:10 · 5 answers · asked by UltimateKitty 2 in Singles & Dating

I know I am sinful, If you don't want to answer don't read the question. But don't get upset unnecessarily

2006-09-12 22:20:48 · 3 answers · asked by kallan k 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-09-12 22:17:45 · 11 answers · asked by nn 1 in Weddings