right! my partner is babysitting his kids on fri night! and he was going to take them away for the night but his ex has said no!! even though she needs him to sit but she wants him to sleep over at the house! he said he will take the kids away anyway and he will organise the b and b bt he let me ring them yesterday but wont today? do you think he is going to say going but not? just for peaceful life and stay over?
2006-09-12 22:26:06 · 9 answers · asked by purdy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you need to talk to the ex and see whats going on.the bf is cheating honey.If you happen to call the kids ask the where is daddy sleeping at and they will tell you mommy's bed.
2006-09-12 22:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. If he wont let you in on the organising anymore than maybe he has changed his plans. His ex is being out of order, she obviously has no worries with your partner and his children so he should be able to say how and where he looks after the children even more so when he is doing her a favour. There's probably nothing untoward going on but if he is staying over then he probably hasn't told you because he doesn't want to upset you as it would obviously make you feel uncomfortable. You can probably only find out after the weekend and if he did stay over then you should have a serious conversation as to why he chose his ex's feelings over yours. If he didn't stay over then you only have to point out that it did look a little bit suspect.
2006-09-12 22:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be staying over to try and stay on the good side of his ex, for the kids sake, and probably doesnt want to upset you! he has probably got to try and keep the peace with everyone, and has prob had to tell some little white lies to do so! all you can do is ask him to tell the truth, and that you wont mind where he stayed, then he is more likely to tell the honest answer. The kids could know if he is staying and they are probably stuck in the middle too, so tell him to tell the truth, so that you can prove you trust him, or the problem will keep coming up! hope you can get the truth from him x
2006-09-12 22:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by carrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Australia, he can take the kids, he doesn't have to stay at his ex's house. if she gets angry then she can try to get a court order but seriously, she has no chance of having it her way unless your partner has a criminal record or, if it is in the best interest of the children to stay at their own house. it depends on the age of the children and how well they know their father. this is about the kids, try not to get caught up with who has power over the situation, where ever the kids are safer & happier is where they should stay...
2006-09-12 22:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibley, Lifes never easy when you have all the elements you mentioned i.e kids ex'es and newer relationships. Restraint and tolerance with a lot thought about other members of the groups needs and understanding their reactions is needed. Its the only way to moe forward.
2006-09-12 22:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably telling you the truth, but it looks like he is doing it for his kids. men can put up with a load of nonsense from their exs just for the sake of being able to see children and staying in touch with them. It might be very hard for him to do but I think it will be good for both of you to set the rules now: she wants help - she lets him take them with him. Do it delicately, could even contrive to some excuses. it will be harder to keep it nice for both of them if he doesn't put his foot on thisi subject now. Good luck.
2006-09-13 01:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends what custody rights your boyfriend has. If it's legally his turn to see the kids then she can't do anything about him wanting to take them away for the night. If he doesn't have any custody rights then she can say what she wants to happen. If that's the case, your boyfriend should consider trying o extend his custody rights.
2006-09-12 22:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter?
2006-09-12 22:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wha?
2006-09-12 22:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by leebeesmum_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋