If I am in love with her and my wife says its OK cos my wife doesnt make love to me anymore,
2006-09-12 22:46:09 · 25 answers · asked by Shironeko 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't see why not. Make doubly sure that it's ok with your wife before you do it. I don't agree with them myself but polygamous relationships can work very well as long as everyone does their part and it is truly consensual on all sides.
Don't mean to pry but why doesn't your wife make love to you anymore? Has it occurred to you that there is a problem with the marriage or at the very least with her? If that is the case then bringing another woman into your life will just make it worse. Not to mention that she could be saying yes just so you don't walk out on her. Also, do you still love your wife? If not then you should simply end the relationship before entering into another.
Bottom line is don't rush into this. Discuss it with your wife.
2006-09-13 01:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by StolenAnjel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot wrong with your marrage and both of you are unhappy. Having another girlfriend with or without your wife's permission is wrong! Why? One it will cause heartache in the end your wife may be saying yes just to see if you will and be more hurt than you can ever imagine.
A friendship, affair or relationship is never the cause of a break up between a couple it is a sign and symtom that there is something wrong with the relationship ou already have. You think you have found the answer with this other person you have not you will create a lot more problems. The answer is to sit down with your wife and talk honest, open and frank about the problems you have. Even if it means saying things you or she does not want to hear. You may find out that you can sort theses problems out and it is only when you both sit down and talk will you find this out. Only two things can happen one you both decide to end the marrage for all the right reasons or two you try your best to work it all out. It is not easy by a long chalk but if you had this "girlfriend" you are opening a whole can of worms and it will end in tears. To be fair to both women you need to talk things out with wife bout the problems you have already said you have.
I hope that has helped in some small way. Your "new found love" will only work if you have no baggage from the past your wife is not baggage she IS STILL your wife you owe it to one another to talk first then act upon what you decide.
2006-09-12 23:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your wife completely? If you do, then you shoudl try to sort out your sex life with her. If you do, but the relationship is not fulfilling you, have you tried to speak to a relationship expert? Your wife probably does not want you have to sex with another woman, and is only saying yes because she feels bad. Try your best to keep your marriage as it should be, one man and one woman!
2006-09-13 08:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your wife agrees with it go ahead but it doesnt necessary make it right. but you can have all the girl friends you want but you need only 1 wife
2006-09-12 22:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by star_bright083 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm - wonder WHY you and wifey dont have sex anymore? That you feel the need for a girlfriend, Id feel completely humilated and rejected - why not try to rebuild things with your wife - she is after all - YOUR wife.
2006-09-15 14:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all parties are ok and willing then there should not be a problem. You must talk with your missus first though to check she won't throw a wobbly. Then contact me because I have twenty odd girlfriends and need to offload some.
2006-09-12 23:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by mick241602 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally think its totally wrong but if its up to you and your wife.
2006-09-13 00:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by John Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know your wife isn't testing you to see if you will go through with it ?
2006-09-12 23:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by kirstapper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife says its ok then do it! and encourage your wife to join in... this may encourage her to be aroused and make love to you more often.
2006-09-12 22:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is awesome....does she have a sister with the same beliefs?
2006-09-12 23:54:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋