i was married twice and my first wife had a selfish kind of narcissistic mother. she hated her mother because her mother had an affair on her father and proclaimed that she wasn't like her at all. guess what happened? she had an affair on me. second wife was a very sweet woman to the outside world. everybody seemed to love her.then behind closed doors she was horrid. yelling, screaming, obscenities. then after marriage i found out her own mother had horrid issues. her and her whole immediate family shouted at each other, made up, acted like you could do anything to the people you love and they were suppose to just forgive you. her mother had serious control issues and was very emotionally manipulative and very abusive. i came to find out after my second wife used to trash her mother, she was the same way. i tried to help but she just couldn't change. in your experience is it true that apples don't ever fall very far from the tree as far as spouses and their parents are concerned? And if the spouse was different than the parents, how did that happen? Did they finally have to realize that they had to cut all ties to their immediate family (which is almost impossible but some have done it to preserve their marriage and break their family cycle). However I haven’t seen it done.
2007-12-11
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