I was just hoping that someone who has maybe been in a similar situation can help me out. My nine year old daughter and I fight constantly. I know, it is ridiculous, to fight with a nine year old, but the thing is she speaks to me as if we are equal and speaks down to me. Her father spent 5 years verbally assualting me on a daily basis, and when he began to get physical I left him. Evidently she blames me for this... I had a lightbulb moment one day about 2 years ago, when she was an inch from my face telling me that "you mean NOTHING to me, do you understand me?", yes, she was 7 at that time. Anyways it occurs to me that she speaks to me exactly like he did, she just doesn't swear. I try desperately to ignore her when she gets like this, but after 6 years (her mouth started at 3), I just crack sometimes and we end up in a screaming match. I know I am the adult in the situaion, but I cannot help but feel like I have spent enough of my life being spoken to like a jackass. Ideas?
2007-11-22
15:06:05
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