Does this sound like there is a bit of truth to this situation.
I have always known that drinking was a problem for me. I just choose to ignore the problems that go along with it. I was a completely functional drinker and thought I knew what I was doing.
I waited to get married until I was 32, mostly because I could not find anyone that would put up with my secret.
Then I met my wife, a great better half for me, so I thought. I finally found someone I could get drunk with all the time.
Then about five years into the marriage, I was having major health problems because of my drinking, yet this did not stop me from drinking. I was at the point where I did not care about anyone or anything.
One thing that always got me in a lot of arguments with my wife was that she continued to drink and pop prescription meds while I was in a state of jepeoardy.
She still claims to be a ALANON member because of her second husband and that it is OK to drink in front of me. I strongly disagreed with her.
This led us to start filing for a divorce.
While this was happening, something clicked inside of me and I quit drinking.
She has always stated that she wishes that I would quit drinking.
after about 6 months of bieng sober, I could finally see through the fog that I have been living in and I decided to reconcile with my wife and try to make things right.
When I moved back in, I really thought that the absense of my drinking would curtail her drinking. WRONG!!!
She has asked me if drinking in front of me bothers me.. My answer is a sincere no it does not bother me the smell, physical presence, etc..
I told her what does bother me is the Dual personalities that come out when you are drinking.
One big thing I have noticed in this progressive disease is denial and anger.
Well All said here,
We are seperated
This is what I think I have learned about all this:
1. Two drunks meet each other
2. Two drunks get married
3. One drunks tells other drunks that he drinks too much
4. The other drunk becomes sober
5. Now the sober drunk and active drunk have nothing in common
I will continue on a sober road 600+ Days
Does anyone have a similar experience ???
2007-11-18
10:01:37
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Marriage & Divorce