I really love this guy and I care for him very much. After a couple of years of being out of high school, he has finally made a decision on college. He told me his plans and our relationship continued, we were going to stay together. We didn’t discuss it too much, but whenever we did nothing seemed wrong or out of place. He did however talk with me about our relationship. We had a few things that well needed to be dealt with (some outside factors) and it was time that they were taken care of. And that’s what we did. Its weird, but this guy just doesn’t smile a lot. However the last few times we hung out he was all smiles and he even looked at me a little differently, like I was the best thing ever (which I don’t claim to be).
About two weeks after the last time I saw him I told him we needed to talk a few things out before he left, just to clear anything up or make any plans we needed to. I had tried to talk to him a few other times before that, but he was busy running back and forth to school that I didn’t push it until the end. So that weekend we sat down to talk and out of nowhere he told me it was done. He told me at least 3 different reasons why and none of them really made sense. I knew that he was going to be very busy at school, I knew it and I had thought it all through for months because I knew he wouldn’t. That was one thing I wanted to talk to him about and I wanted to tell him that even if it got tough that I would there for him and that we could just take our time if we needed to. He tried to tell me that he didn’t like me anymore, but I know it’s a lie. In certain parts of our relationship things were finally coming together and were getting closer than ever. All our friends say he still likes me. I’m not saying he doesn’t know how he feels, but it was too quick and I know he is just pushing me away because he has so much going on right now. I tried to talk to him the next day and told him to take time and that he was confused and busy and he told me that no he wasn’t and that was his decision. And the night before he did make it seem very final, with everything that was said.
This was all about a month ago and he actually left for school today. We still want to be friends and are though we have barely talked since. This guy, his future and everything about him is important to me. I don’t want to make his life harder right now, but I don’t want to lose him either. I know I am going to give him, and myself, some space and time, but I also feel as though I should try and discuss things with him again. I know he thinks cutting me out was best and easiest ,and if time is what he needs right now then it is. However (maybe in a month or two) I want to try talk to him again about all of this. I think he needs time to settle down and get into the rhythm of school. I think I also need to relax and think everything out. However when I do try to talk with him I don’t want him to panic and push me away without listening to me either, I was thinking maybe writing him a letter. I think it would be calmer and it wouldn’t seem like there is so much pressure to do anything, except maybe contact me. Do you think that if we do still have feelings for each other, and that if I give him time and space, that he can rethink and come around from his previous decision?
2007-08-19
19:25:04
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