My heart aches to see my granddaughter and visit my son and his wife.
In recent months I have been told my visits are putting stress on their marriage. Also all plans they invited me to do with them were cancelled without telling me until I showed up. I am told that visiting me is too far and too expensive. Recently they agreed to let my granddaughter visit me while they were driving pass from a trip to Canada, then cancelled because they signed her up for camp to start when they returned.
Since this began, they have traveled three times with her parents to Canada and Florida. Also my son fixes up her parents rental properties that takes the same amount of time to drive to as to my home.
My son told me to deal with the cards dealt and life is not always fair. He yelled at me but now has told his family I escalated and yelled at him. I apologized just to reach peace, but he still refuses to talk to me.
We were always close; this is so out of character for him. When I used to visit, I bought groceries, helped him fix and clean his house and baby sat while they worked. I thought his wife liked me and enjoyed my visits (that took a lot to arrange my job around their needs).
I can’t help crying sometimes. In general though, it seems like an omen telling me to get a new life, meet new friends and start dating again. I suppose I will survive, I just don’t understand what I did to make my family squeeze me out. The last thing my son said was I need to move closer if we want our relationship to survive, but when I began to look for homes there, is when all this began.
2007-08-13
02:38:24
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