We've been close friends for 3 yrs - he's liked me from the very beginning. We talk about everything and he's always been there for me. Friends say he's always "adored"/respected me.
Earlier this year, i realized i fell for him and he still felt the same way. He's a "late bloomer" - he's never had a girlfriend, kiss, physical contact, etc...until me. We decided that it wasn't the "right time" to be in a relationship right now b/c he wanted it to be the "right time": "long lasting, serious, and real."
A few months back, he lost someone very close to him. During those months, i've reached out to him, let him know he was there but avoided me completely. Now that we're starting to talk again, i know there's been something on my mind because he's been avoiding me (woman instinct). We had a "convo"and pretty much it's been him pushing me to be with other guys...i KNOW for a fact it's just a cover up for him probably feeling he can't be with me...but he wouldn't tell me straight up. Fr. how he was talking, his ego was talking, talking like he knew the "game" of dating when in reality, he's never "had" a girl. He finally sent me a TXT msg explaining that i shouldn't "wait for him", and that i'm "grown enough" to hear this it was his deciding factor that we should "still be friends no matter what".
i feel completely DISREPSECTED bc this drama wouldn't have happened if he didn't tell me this right away. and who said i was waiting for him? i reached out b/c i was worried about how he was dealing with the death. If anything, he would have the manners to stop avoiding me, talk to me face to face and not assume and decide our status. b/c of the fact that we've been friends, i felt that he handled this situation poorly.
What do i do?
2007-07-28
21:09:17
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