We've been close friends for 3 yrs - he's liked me from the very beginning. We talk about everything and he's always been there for me. Friends say he's always "adored"/respected me.
Earlier this year, i realized i fell for him and he still felt the same way. He's a "late bloomer" - he's never had a girlfriend, kiss, physical contact, etc...until me. We decided that it wasn't the "right time" to be in a relationship right now b/c he wanted it to be the "right time": "long lasting, serious, and real."
A few months back, he lost someone very close to him. During those months, i've reached out to him, let him know he was there but avoided me completely. Now that we're starting to talk again, i know there's been something on my mind because he's been avoiding me (woman instinct). We had a "convo"and pretty much it's been him pushing me to be with other guys...i KNOW for a fact it's just a cover up for him probably feeling he can't be with me...but he wouldn't tell me straight up. Fr. how he was talking, his ego was talking, talking like he knew the "game" of dating when in reality, he's never "had" a girl. He finally sent me a TXT msg explaining that i shouldn't "wait for him", and that i'm "grown enough" to hear this it was his deciding factor that we should "still be friends no matter what".
i feel completely DISREPSECTED bc this drama wouldn't have happened if he didn't tell me this right away. and who said i was waiting for him? i reached out b/c i was worried about how he was dealing with the death. If anything, he would have the manners to stop avoiding me, talk to me face to face and not assume and decide our status. b/c of the fact that we've been friends, i felt that he handled this situation poorly.
What do i do?
2007-07-28 21:09:17 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
his best friend told me to ignore him completely...that's what's gonna get him the message
2007-07-28 21:16:30 · update #1
i never was waiting for him...
2007-07-28 21:20:05 · update #2
you can't always expect someone to open up to you right away and tell you everything they think or feel, obviously you both had a different idea of what your relationship was and you can't blame it entirely on him he just wanted to make it clear that he thought it would be best to stay friends
also please don't make generalizations like that, guys are individuals just like girls and if one does something you find hurtful or disagree with don't blame it on the whole gender, blame the person because we are not all the same, the people who tell you that we are were probably hurt by a guy too
2007-07-28 21:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by Billy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly that.
You don't want to deflate his ego, you want him to understand that there has been a lack of communication between you. Say exactly what you said in your last paragraph. He'll get it. If he doesn't, then maybe it is time to move on.
Also, try to stay away from blanket generalizations about my sex. It isn't fair, we aren't all that way.
2007-07-28 21:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by p37ry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women have made us that way.
2007-07-28 21:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is still hurting??? or are you upset because he rejected you..............either way move on and get over it
2007-07-28 21:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋