When Does life improve?

Question

I really don't mean to be a pest, but I just need reasurance.
LIFE SUCKS!!! IT IS HORRIBLE!!! Honestly, I feel as though pople ALL around me are like becoming friends, and hooking up and actually enjoying life. I try to focus on the little things, but nothing good comes to mind. I have few friends, and that is my fault. I am 14, entering high school, and am GAY. Yeps, I am an only child and homosexual... Golly gee, isn't this dandy? T.T
SO tell me, does life get better? Because furthurmore, I can't play any sports. AT ALL. So tell me, exactly when does life get better? Because I would like to see
if it's worth waiting for.

Answer 1

university ... well thats when my life improved.

Answer 2

Dude seriously High School is NOT as good as it gets. The hardest part about HS is that you're stuck trying to figure out who you are when everything and everybody around you is changing (including yourself). But things get better I think for pretty much everyone when they get in their late teens and early twenties. It's mainly because as you get older you spend way less time worrying about what people think and you spend more time pursuing things and just living life. I know I sound like an old man preaching to you about being young, but I'm only twenty so I remember very well what's it's like to be 14. And I'm an only child too so I know it can get lonely at times. But just try not to worry about what other people are doing and just live your life. After you do that everything will fall into place. You'll have plenty of friends and you'll meet a guy too. But until then, don't worry about it. And I'm gonna let you in on a little secret: sports really don't matter.

Answer 3

Buddy you're going through a difficult age! I had some hard times from 9th to 11th grades, and I felt hopeless too. But my friends got me through and my mom was a love. My senior year in hs was a little better and college was great.
Just do everything you can to build up your body, like swim or run or go to the gym. You might find more girl friends than guys, and in my case, i hung around some of the best looking girls in hs, so the guys would tolerate me or pretend to be friends so they could meet the girls I knew.
Also, look for your personal creative outlets, whether it's music or art or writing or dancing or computerr design, and don't be afraid to report any harassment to teachers, principals, or your parents. (Hopefully your parents are loving and supportive anyway.) I was also an only child and we tend to take things seriously, more than people with brothers and sisters who understand that you might fight and argue and be friends again the next day. I think you should look for some good books to read too that will keep your head above the mud that people might sling at you. In the end, you'll be stronger and more independent than most of these haters, so don't think that they are really better than you. They might focus on you because they don't have a life, so thicken your skin and get strong every way you can. I'd love to see a gay teen get really so strong that no one messes with him. Weightlifting could do it for you. But don't underestimate the power of friend-girls in highschool.

Answer 4

Hey person, Im 16 And im also in high school (11th grade) and yea people around me seem to do the same thing. I get lonely like big time and depressed. But i have awesome friends. Im out about being gay and i get alot of judgments made and alot of critisism and crap. But what you need to focus on is the positive (friends, family etc...) Ya i just ignore all the jerks and biggots at school. If you have yahoo messenger or msn u can have my addys Yahoo: east9481 MSN: [e-mail] (yes its msn lol) well hope everything works out for you. =3

Answer 5

when i 1st read your question, i thought of this cliche...'it improves when i trust God as if it's all up to Him, and when i do the footwork as if the results are all up to me.' then i read your details. where do i start? i'm proud of you for a couple of reasons. 1. you ask for help when you feel like you're in over your head. that's called humility. 2. you accept you're gay and admit it. that's honesty and courage.
you couldn't PAY me to be a teenager again. i'm 43. i'll be honest. it may get worse before it gets better but it WILL get better if you want it bad enough. it was in high school when i got into drugs/alcohol and attempted suicide several times. i am clear about my purpose in life now. the signs started decades ago and became more frequent as time went on. this year it's right in my face, clear as a bell. for me, the core of it is my relationship with God. i used to hate God because i thought He gave me chronic depression and alcoholism. then i learned the most liberating lesson i've ever learned....God doesn't MAKE bad things happen. He's not capable of that. He ALLOWS them to happen for a reason. the reason is so i can learn and grow spiritually, and then pass on what i learn to help others.' do you know what that means?!!!!! that all my tears and pain were not in vain or wasted. they are part of who i'm becoming now. i don't have it all together. no one does, and if they say they do, they're lying. but if i could tell you how many other alcoholics i've been able to help because of what i went through, geese...it made it all worthwhile in the long run. if i hadn't battled with depression, i would have skipped your question and wouldn't be able to tell you, from my own experience, that you are not alone. you can't imagine how grateful it makes me to know i might be able to make a small difference in someone's life.

life is not about popularity, although at 14 it seems to be. this is the beginning of you learning who you are and having the courage to be true to yourself. the only one i try to impress anymore is God. not even Jesus could please everybody, right?

in high school and in your community, you'll discover tons of activities to try, if you look. you could check out the churches and libraries. try it all, one at a time. don't make a judgement before you try something. sports are just one tiny facet, one little activity amongst millions.

God bless you, jake. you must be the reason God woke me up at 3:30am.

Answer 6

I wish I could say High School is all butterflies, puppies, sunshine, and smiles...but it isn't.

Believe, getting older is great, but problems are going to find you. The only thing you can do is stick with your friends, make new ones, have fun, enjoy life, take your grades seriously, you'll make it through alright.

Who knows, you might that person you want in High School. :) Or you might be a hopeless crush person like me haha

Answer 7

Life improves when you decide to like yourself. You will always have people that want to hate you because of who you are, but you can't think about them. Love yourself, be yourself, and then you will find many people that will love you for who you are. It will be alright, trust me, and whenever someone else gets you down just remember, at the end of the day your the only one there, so It matters alot more you think. Good Luck :)

Answer 8

Trust me life does get better. I may not be an only child but have plenty of friends who are or may as well be. I can't play sports at all and neither can any of my friends. Just look out, there are always friends around...like mine who are now what we call ourselves "The Outcasts." I myself am bi and trust me, there are plenty of people out their, and I would know just because I live in pretty much nowhere....

Answer 9

Life got better for me the day I left High School. It gets better, people really do mature (for the most part), and if you go to college you will find a life you never knew existed. Trust, it dose get better, even for a social pariah like myself.

Answer 10

You must wake up everyday and say it's going to be a great day, make some good out of any bad that comes your way eventualy you will see more good happens rather than bad things, keep your head up.

Answer 11

Life gets better when you say so.No one will make your life better but you.If you want your life to be better,make it happen.Be optimistic and don't let the crappy stuff of everyday put you down.Believe me life isn't easier but it's way much better when you decide so.You don't live twice so don't let other people and stuff ruin it.