A guy I work with had been showing a lot of interest in me a couple of months ago, and it continued for that amount of time. There were serious stares, lingering glances, trying to run into me, dropping hints, etc. Still, it was clear that nothing could happen because of company policies. I showed interest back, just not as clearly, but he knew I was interested as well. Then , as soon as he reviewed my work and gave it a lot of compliments (the first time he was exposed to it, and he really liked it), he changed. He doesn’t try to talk to me anymore when he walks by, he avoids looking into any room I’m in, he gets nervous when we do talk (whereas before, he was very outgoing and energetic when we talked). He has been SO proper to me, and before he was so “carefree”. A couple of days ago, though, in a conversation I made a really good point in convincing a third person, and he was looking at me with a big smile on his face (and in his eyes!), he seemed to really admire the way I showed my knowledge. But, overall, my behavior hasn’t changed at all. I wasn’t showing any more interest than usual, I was treating him like I always did – so, it’s not like I acted clingy and scared him off, or gave him the cold shoulder. And, I know for a fact that he is NOT seeing or wanting anyone, so no change there either.
A friend of mine said that, once he started to admire me, he stopped seeing me as just another “pretty” face, and that he’s keeping his distance because he’s afraid of what could happen between us. He really WAS very interested before, and yes, it would be a dangerous relationship – but is my friend right?! Or do men simply lose interest just like that??
2007-04-12
07:36:54
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Melissa N
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Marriage & Divorce