My Ex and I have joint custody of our 5 yr old Daughter. We divorced when She was A year old. Since then He has had Little to No Involvement. he is now living with his fiancee,Who Happens to be an ex friend of mine. She cheated with my fiancee on me and then began dating my exhusband. Any ways
They Are getting mArried in July. they want my daughter to be the Flower girl. i have no problem with that. but they didn't ask my Permission And didn't even Call to tell me they wanted to do this. i found out from my Ex Mother in law. Should I let her Go ,Since he only wants her when people are going to be seeing him and Judging him????
2007-04-12 07:38:14 · 7 answers · asked by dez79837 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let her go, because as she gets older she'll realize what he's like and choose what she wants to do. my daughter went through the same, him and his wife mentally abused her, but she wanted to keep going, it broke my heart, but she went until about 4 years ago she fell out with him because she realized what they were doing, and she thanked me for letting her make her own mind up. besides they'll all know what he's like with his daughter, and you'll look the better person. good luck
2007-04-12 07:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the child wants to participate in her FATHER's life then she should be allowed to. If you share joint custody and the wedding falls on a time when she is with him anyway they don't HAVE to ask your permission. She is afterall HIS daughter too and joint custody means just that...not that everything she does while in HIS custody has to be cleared through you...you are obviously jealous, get over yourself.
2007-04-12 11:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like to me you don't have a choice, since she is his daughter TOO, and he has joint custody. Why has he had little or no involvement. DOes she want to do it?
Don't be so bitter, and regardless of his previous involvement, don't start battles you may not win, by keeping your daughter from her dad, she will grow up one day and realize who the good parent is/was?
2007-04-12 07:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by kgperry70 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you want your daughter to have the benefits of having her father in her life? Even if you can't make him do it all the time, do you want her to have at least what he is able to give her? Do you think it's possible that, once he realizes how great it makes him and his daughter feel to be together, he may learn ways to change his habits & do it more often for her?
If so, then encourage any positive, healthy interaction that they can have with each other.
2007-04-12 07:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does your daughter want to be the flower girl?
If she wants to be the flower her, then let her.
2007-04-12 07:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's his daughter too and you shouldn't have to ask his permission if it was your wedding. That would be using your child to prove a useless point.
2007-04-12 07:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by thezenfulclover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would, only because the situation on his end sounds petty, you know? It's a (maybe) one time thing LOL....and if any comments are made at the wedding, you can can be honest and explain things, he can fend for himself, you know?
2007-04-12 07:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋