I've been happily married for a few years. We have a seven month old, and didn't have sex at all for 8 mos. of the pregnancy. She said she didn't feel sexy and didn't want to be touched, and although I tried to make her feel sexy I didn't press the issue. After the birth, we didn't have sex for five months, and when we talked about it, she still had issues with her body and some pain from the c-section. Finally when we did, she had pain and some bleeding, for which she's seen a doctor. He didn't find anything, and it's not a lack of lube. I am trying to be sympathetic, but it's been a month and a half now, and she's not willing to give oral (normally not an issue but it seems like a good solution if pain is really the issue) and I feel like if the roles were reversed, I would endure a little pain every once in a while for her. I feel like she's not placing any importance on my needs, am I being reasonable? I just want to find a solution that works for both of us, but so far...
2007-02-23
18:03:47
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Killer B
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Marriage & Divorce