my boyfriend got mad cause I take my brother to work everyday, he is18 and this is his first job, my bf thinks he should ride the city bus, I don't think theres nothing wrong with him riding the bus, But im at home why cant I take him if I want too, I love my brother and its only two of us. How can I tell him he's wrong withoutstarting an arguement?
2007-02-23 18:01:58 · 13 answers · asked by jatir 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To me its nothing to do with your husband or boyfriend what you do for or with your brother, he is your family to, what you say to him is:
Well you know I din't think you had that in you, I thought you were more caring than that especially when it comes to family you should be ashamed of your attitude! Would you do that to your own family(I beg my pardon-if he has family) so could you just turn around and tell them find your own way- like a big bully or are you more grown up than that and more responsible and loving- think about that and leave me be!
Say this with your chin up and very firmly.
2007-02-23 21:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your bf is not family yet, so he can't control you like that. Tell him you don't have a prob of driving your bro to work as it's not a chore. And since there's a conveniece of getting a car ride, why should he take the hard way of waiting for the bus? Unless it's what your brother wants, tell him you have no prob with it.
2007-02-24 02:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your mouth and let your mind out. You are doing a good thing for your brother and your bf should understand that. On the other side, you can't let your brother get too dependent on you. He's 18, old enough to drive. All in all, one is your bf, the other is family. Family comes first. Hope this helps.
2007-02-23 18:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by Spike Spiegel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothin wrong with you takin him to work but if your busy somewhere he should take the bus. he should be independent in case someday you won't be able to take him to work. is your boyfriend mad b/c you and him were supposed to go somewhere or do something and you having to take your brother to work got in the way??? If not, maybe he has something against your brother??? Or he may feel its cost effective if your brother rides the bus? If the weather is bad or you have nothing to do, than take him to work. If not, he could take the bus sometimes. there's nothin wrong with that.
2007-02-23 18:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is nothing wrong if you are helping your brother as that time u don't have anything else to do...your bf is jealous of your brother or is he insecure abt the relation he is with u,...that y he has made this small thing as an issue.......trust me when ppl have something that bothering them or they have guilty concussion of there own they start fights and arguments for no reason......talk to him nicely ,,,,,,,when he is good mood that exactly what is the thing that bothering him.....then decide if he is wrong or right.......well ur brother is 18 so i think after he has settles in his new job for almost 5-6 months make him independent........
2007-02-23 18:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by mahek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you say you don't mind, your bf probable feels that your brother is taking advantage of you. Your brother is 18 and needs to learn responsibility now. He won't learn it any easier later in life. Taking the bus will teach him time management and he will meet allot of unique people.
2007-02-23 18:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by srena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you're doing something nice for your brother. If it's not cutting into other parts of your life, then, your boyfriend is being petty and you can tell him so! I mean, if it was cutting into your time with your boyfriend, then I would understand it. And if it is, just weigh out your options; if it is fine for your brother to ride the bus, thens pend some extra time with your boyfriend. If it isn't cutting into your time, tell him you just want to do something special for your brother and that it's your decision and really none of his business.
2007-02-23 18:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your still being the big sister,and there is nothing wrong with you helping him save money and time ,tell him he should be glad that your brother got a job and is not some freeloading bum.
2007-02-23 18:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth? you cant. hes a guy... they are cocky and believe they are always right. maybe try to talk to him about it, but if he gets mad just drop it. and honestly, do what you want with your bro. if your bf gets mad over something that ridiculous then hes just weird...
2007-02-23 18:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend is insecure or controlling or he does not like your brother.
2007-02-23 18:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by HuniBuniBee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋