This is a complex question so bear with me. I am married, late 20s and I love my wife sincerely. However, since childhood I have been prfoundly gender dysphoric. Despite fighting these inclincations I cannot make myself happy in a male social role. I have tried to find a compromise by dressing occassionally in private. This is not a fetishistic behaviour, it is simply a means of palliating my dysphoria.
Predictably I guess, my wife found some of my clothes and after a heart to heart, with some tears, accepted that this is part of who I am. She does not want to force me to give it up, I think she realises I can not. However, although she never commented on my shaved legs for years, she now gets really upset about the fact that I do shave my legs and insists I stop that.
I want to make her happy, my love for her is sincere but I cannot pretend I am not me either and denying that part of me simply worsens the dysphoria.
My question is, what should I do about this?
2007-02-17
01:30:40
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Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender