My mother attends a weekly christian fellowship in a neighbourhood. She likes going, although finds the majority of people quite depressing (most are elderly). I’m in my mid 30’s and she’s in her mid 60’s. I still live with her. Every time she goes to the group, she comes back feeling quite down. Yesterday, when I asked her how she was, she said, “Not very good. I don’t know how long I can keep going round there and face the fact that we’re in the same circumstances as Susie* (aged 79) and Stephen* (aged 46)”. What she means by this is it re-enforces the fact that me and my mother are all alone like Susie* and her son Stephen*. She keeps comparing me to Stephen* and says, “You’re just the same type as him - unmarried and is awkward with people like you are. Susie* and Stephen* have only got each other just like us two and it scares me. Susie’s* still worrying about Stephen* at the age of 46 and I dread that we’ll end up the same in years to come”.
I hate it when she compares me to Stephen* (as he’s an awful character) and I do tell my mother that I’m nothing like him and I can’t help it if I’m not married yet and have no family. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I hope the above makes sense. PLEASE HELP.
2006-12-06
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