I'm having bridesmaid trouble...I'm obviously having my two younger sisters but I can only afford three which is where the problem is: my boyfriend has a sister and i'm very close to my cousin - more of a love/hate relationship but I do worry that she'll constantly be critiscising my choice of colours/dresses etc. We grew up together and are the same age - but I don't want to leave out my boyfriends sister, as a bridesmaid. Ideally, I'd have all of them but I can't afford it.
What do I do??! Both of them have great crafting skills and an eye for detail so could I ask one of them to be my bridesmaid and the other to help out with the designing of the church decor etc??
2006-12-06 20:42:41 · 26 answers · asked by Bridezilla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm sorry, but I have to say that you cannot limit because you "can't afford" it. You really need to bring these girls together and say, "I love all of you and you are all important to me. I want all of you as my bridesmaids and I simply cannot cut any of you out. Please help me solve this problem." What you are looking for is someone to suggest a way to solve the money probem. Don't make them think you want any to step aside.
About your cousin... she is the one to cut if you decide to take that route, but if you keep her in, just make it clear to her that while you appreciate her advice, this is YOUR wedding and you will make the decisions. No tolerance for critical cousins! haha
If you leave any of them out, they will be hurt. This is (we hope) your ONLY wedding unless you and the hubby decide to romantically renew your vows in Paris one day. hehe
2006-12-06 20:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well extend your wedding until u can afford for all the bridesmaid or if u already done the invitation choose one of your sisters the youngest one,your boyfriend's sister and your cousin.Your cousin need to know, that it's your day and what ever u feel comfortable in she should be so happy and help u out cause she is one of the bridesmaid and u chose her out of one of your sister.Your sister that is not a bridesmaid can help wellcome guests and making sure everything will be allright at the church before everyone arrives.Good luck
2006-12-06 20:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Zexyana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right then. You're obviously still at the decision making stage, colours etc so maybe you should consider how you could have all of them-after all you only do this once right?
When I got married the 1st time I had my bridesmaids dress and my dress made for me and it worked out at a fraction of the cost of buying new from bridal shops. If you find a local seamstress and material outlet simple, classy evening-type dresses(even boned) will work out EXTREMELY cheap for the bridesmaids. I mean a bridesmaids dress(that will probably have to be altered anyway) off the rack in a boutique will cost approx £120-200, will probably be £50-60 to have one made if you keep it classically lined-and they'll all feel dead special(you don't have to say it's cheaper!).
Wedding dress wise I went to a local boutique this time and bought off the rack in the size I wanted rather than order a brand new one. Got a dress worth £2k for less than a fifth of the price-and it was as new and cleaned for me etc free-just because it's on a budget doesn't mean it has to be cheap!!
Good luck and at the end of the day remember it's YOUR day!
2006-12-06 21:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
Firstly, i dont agree with the people who say its to early to plan a wedding (i think they're both men), the majority of venues have waiting lists (sometimes up to 5 years), suppliers get booked up quickly do to this fact.
I think this is about the right time to start planning, gives you the time to find the perfect elements for your wedding!
Ok your bridesmaid issue.....again i dont agree with some of the people that you should wait until you can afford to have all four...weddings are about your relationship and you & your future husbands life, not money issues, if you can only afford to have three bridesmaids, then thats all you can have!!
You should always choose who you are closet too, not whether or not you can get in with the in-laws....being a bridesmaid is quite demanding, so you need to make sure your bridesmaids are up for the job!
Secondly, if you start having cold feet/worrying about the day...who would you rather have there to reassure you and comfort you?
If you decide to choose your cousin, tell her from the start, its your wedding, what you choose/say goes. But tell her you need her opinion on things too!
How well do you know and get on with your fellas sis? This girl is going probably going to be there when you first try on your dress, shes going to be the one shopping with you for your shoes...and sharing those few hours in the build up to the wedding....who would you rather share this experience with?!
Try www.confetti.co.uk they have a section just like yahoo answers but designed purely for weddings!yey!
good luck and i hope you have a lovely day whoever you choose!!!
2006-12-06 21:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by Becci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just stick with having your two sisters. Weddings are really expensive and you are always going to end up rubbing someone up the wrong way anyway. Just remember that it is your day, and you can choose what you want for your day. If you just have your sisters, then you can explain that you are only having 2 bridesmaids and they will be your sisters, then no one else can really get offended as you have chosen the two people who are closest to you. Get the other girls involved in doing something else like making favours for the tables, helping with hair and make up etc. I think when organising a wedding you have to stand firm even if it does mean putting someones nose out of joint, it'll soon be forgotten, and if you don't you run the risk of having everyone elses ideas for yor big day as they'll think they know best! Good luck!
2006-12-06 21:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by jo jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married next August and originally I was only having my 2 best friends as bridesmaids, but now my two sisters and niece also want to be bridesmaids. We are on a budget as well and there's no way I could afford 5 bridesmaid dresses. So, I have said to my 2 original bridesmaids I will buy their dresses but if my sisters and niece want to also be Bridesmaids then they will have to buy their own dresses. They are fine with this as they really want to be part of the big day! Tell your 'extra' bridesmaids that if they really want to be part of your day they are going to have to buy their own dresses - just explain you really cant afford it!
2006-12-06 21:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just have your two sisters and involve the other two in different aspects of the wedding so they are both involved and one doesn't feel any more important than the other? Good luck - at the end of the day it should be about what you want but be careful - weddings have a habit of spiraling out of control and other people don't always take the bride and grooms feelings into account. I hope you get everything sorted without upsetting anyone or having too much grief.
2006-12-06 21:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask your cousin to be the bridesmaid and your boyfriend's sister to help you out with the designing of the church decor etc. because your cousin is closer to you and it's quiet a good idea of you to think of this.........
2006-12-06 20:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have no bridesmaids at all. They're only there for decoration anyway and serve no practical purpose. I didn't have any - not because I couldn't afford them or couldn't find any - but because I didn't see the point.
Spend the money you save on something else - like your new home together, or a few more bottle of champagne!
2006-12-06 20:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the sister be the bridesmaid and have the cousin stand with the sign-in book and have her make people sign it. That worked for me.
2006-12-06 21:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by goddess831_2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋