We'll be married 5 yrs this Dec. He knew I didn't want to get involved with a smoker b/c my son and I have asthma & just the smell on clothes sometimes triggers it. He said he didn't smoke, & after we married I found out it was a lie. He'd look me in the eye & say he wasn't smoking, that his breath smelled b/c of other ppl around him smoking. Is that even possible?
I've had to resort to searching through our cars, & his clothes to see if he's still smoking. About 3 mths ago he had 2 pks of cigs in his jacket pocket & said they weren't his & he didn't know where it came from! He's asked me what he has to do to rebuild my trust, & I told him to "just be honest when he smokes". He says everytime he's caught he wants to quit, but he hasn't used anything (while I've been with him anyway).
I said I know his job is stressfull, & I'd be understanding if it was at work only, not often, & he tells me, but he's smoked @ the bar too.
Leaving him alone doesn't work either, I tried.
2006-07-12
18:22:16
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Jennifer R
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