I have been in abusive marriages in the past. My boyfriend was also abused by his ex. We're both afraid of repeating past mistakes. We are quite committed to making this relationship work, but every once in awhile he or I will do or say things that causes "red flags" to go up. These are just knee-jerk reactions to past relationship behaviors. We love each other & care about one another deeply, but we're still a bit gun-shy when it comes to making a legal commitment. Still, it would be nice for us to take that step, eventually. How can we get over the past & learn to trust that this is not like any other relationship & that we're going to be OK?
2006-07-03
05:06:39
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Kat_Christ
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Marriage & Divorce