My mom caught my stepdad emailing pictures of himself (not face... other body part) and I want to know if...?

Question

If this means I should now never let my baby boy be alone with him. He has never done anything to show he would molest a child, but the computer stuff seems pretty over the line to me... problem is my mom watches my boy while my girlfriend works and one of us woudl have to quit a job to stya home (can't afford daycare)...

My mom decided to stay with the stepdad, he promised to never do anything like that again and she promised me she would never leave the baby alone with him anyway -- but can I trust them? Is what he did so terrible that I cannot risk this nomatter what my girlfriend and I have to do to have her stay home to watch the baby? thank yo uand god bless for your input

Answer 1

Well, it all depends WHO he was sending the pictures to. Was it young girls or boys? Or just one of those people who do things like that online to live a fantasy life they can't in their real world? It's up to you. If the anxiety and stress is too much for you when you leave your child at their house, then I suggest finding a new sitter. If one of you would have to quit your job to stay at home, why could you not afford daycare???? You'd be eliminating one income all together if one of you quit, why not use that income to pay for daycare? Working is not always about the money for some people... job history is important as well as overall income for things like buying a home, etc. Good luck.

Answer 2

Follow your gut feeling.......this type of behavior has been there all along, otherwise how could it have gone this far??? And this type of behavior doesn't just disappear overnight.....without a doubt I would protect the child and not think twice about NOT leaving it with them. I don't understand why Mom isn't more upset with Stepdad.......and why isn't there fear in her mind? If something bad (heaven forbid) happens to this child, how will you ever forgive yourself?! The damage will be done and you won't be able to take it back!!! I would work opposite shifts before leaving this child in this home environment, so that the child will be with you or the mother. It is up to your Mom to decide to remain with this man, but it is your job to make sure your child is safe and protected....PLEASE do whatever it takes to do that!!! You would want to be protected and safe if you weren't able to do this yourself, and your Mom should understand fully your decision to do so. Sounds now like she also has to babysit the Stepdad!!!
Besides, parents and grandparents are role models.......they should be good ones.

Answer 3

You HAVE TO pound it into your mothers head that there is absolutely no way that your step dad should be left alone with your little boy. If she seems to brush it of or not see it as seriously as you, then stay home with him or get a job with an opposite schedule from your spouse. It seems like a pain, but imagine how horrible it would be if something were to happen...... and you could have prevented it! If your mother feelings are hurt then you need to point out how serious you feel the situation is and hopefully she'll be enough of an adult to understand. Good luck.

Answer 4

You got one good sensible answer and that was from ANGEL I just love how tough women and the young girls talk about how they would leave well until you are in those situation you don't know what you would do. Your step dads personal preferences has nothing to do with being a child molester the risk your child have his you not know who to protect him from you need to understand person behaviors and something as serious has that shouldn't be asked on Q&A because these people are young and ignorent.

Answer 5

I dont think it has anything to do with the child, unless it was a child he was emailing it to..........then, Id say he has an issue and keep your kid far, far away from him!
People email things all the time, have secret lives all the time, doesnt make them a bad person or doesnt mean they are out to hurt someone.
I would say that unless he was emailing a kid, it should be ok, he's got a problem but it wont affect your child. And your mom is there too. good luck.

Answer 6

your kid should always come first no matter what. I'm in the same boat. and i stay home with the kids while my husband works.
is better safe than sorry. you and your girl could talk about the work hours. you know maybe she can work during the day and you stay with the baby. And then you work at night while she stays with the baby.
Plus how old is the baby. Pretty soon it would be old enough for pre-school right?

Answer 7

Trust you gut instinct. The fact that you are asking this question says that you do not fully trust this man around your child. What cost is to much to protect your son? How will you feel if you do nothing, leave your child in this environment, and your step-father does molest him. Will you ever be able to forgive yourself, especially when you had doubts in the first place. How will you ever make that up to your son. Do what needs to be done to protect your child. You are his parent, that is your most important responsibility.

Answer 8

First of all he is darn lucky to have your mom because if he were my guy he'd probably be out on the curb about now...second of all I doubt you have anything to worry about in regards to children; I mean, he was probably sending the pics to some stupid chick he met online or something. You might talk to them more about it to make sure but just because the guy is a raving a**hole and a cheat doesn't make him a pedophile and a pervert.

Answer 9

I wouldn't risk it, if your mom chooses to stay in that relationship she is old enough to protect herself. Your child however is incapable of making those decisions and that's why your there. Keep him far away. Yes, I'm sure you may have to sacrifice but hey I think in this case it's worth it. Hope everything works out for you.

Answer 10

DON'T LEAVE THE CHILD WITH THEM, HE HAS A SERIOUS PROBLEM. YOU WILL BE SORRY. HE WILL MOLEST YOUR CHILD, NO MATTER WHAT EVEN IF YOU HAVE TO QUIT WORK, HE WILL FIND A WAY TO DO THINGS, MEN LIKE THAT ALWAYS DO, DON'T LEAVE YOUR CHILD THERE FOR EVEN AN HOUR. YOUR MOM SHOULD SEE THAT. WHAT KIND OF A PERSON WOULD EMAIL PICTURES LIKE THAT TO A CHILD? A SICK ONE THAT'S WHAT KIND.