He says he thinks about it all the time (BDSM) like different ways to tie me up and other things he'd like to do to me, and uses the computer whenever he's alone. Once in a while I let him do those things, but I'm not into that stuff and it doesn't turn me on, also sometimes it hurts. I've tried to be accomodating to what he's into, letting him know that just cuz I'm not into it, doesn't mean I think he's a freak (he spent many years before me thinking he wasn't normal because of it). We've been together 3 years and only recently has this become a problem. He says his only been this obsessed about it for about a month, that before then it was only like twice a month (which I kinda knew before and was fine with since I have my own things I'm into and would indulge in on the net about that often as well). But I don't know what to do now, it's excessive. He wants to get help. I'm scared that this is going to ruin our marriage, and that he won't be able to change, even though he wants to.
2006-06-26
03:04:58
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Aimee
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Marriage & Divorce